Money has different names.in church is called "offerings".in marriage is called"prideprice",in divorce is called"alimony",when you owe someone"debt"when you pay the government is a "tax",in courts"fines",government to retirees is "pension",boss to workers is "salary"master to subordinates"wages"children is"maintenance",when you borrow from the bank is "loan",when you offer a service like serve some one in a resturant"tip",you give to get away with punishment"bribery"you pay to study"tuition"your parents give when in school"allowance",you offer to the needy is "charity",pay for consuming utilities "bills" please i will need the public help here especially those who are not married but are in to relationships.married people can also give a better answer because they have been through this.my list would have been completed but for these two.when a boyfriend gives money to his girlfriend ,what do we call it?next, when you pay to have sex,what do we call it?please dont throw back the question on me because i am not married and i have never been in to any relationa and i have never paid for sex too.thank you.

Who really owns a man?his mother or his wife?this is a debate between a wife and her mother in law. MOTHER.my son must obey me because he suck my my breast for a year and put me out of shape. WIFE.he sucks mine now and have sucked it for 7 years and is still continuing sucking.so what is your one year to my 7 years?only GOD knows when he is going to stop. MOTHER.i carried him for 9 months and had to reshape my life because of him. WIFE.he was only 3.5kg then,so what is the big deal in that?i carry him every night since when he was 60k.g and now he is 90k.g and remember it's been now 7 years.stop kidding me with your 9 months. MOTHER.he passed through my legs leaving an unbearable pain that is hard to forget. WIFE.hahahaa.he only passed once.he stays between my legs almost every night and i scream with pains each time. please be the judge and put an end to this debate to settle the dispute between these two women.

I was brought up to understand that farting around people is very impolite.i too think so but living in china i have constantly been in situations where chinese just fart uncontrolably.you get in to an office,the managers shakes your hand while farting,offer you water accompanied with a fart.sitting in a resturant you can hear loud sound of some one farting.is it really tolerrable or is a cultural thing?i must honestly say that i haven't seen that of women farting uncontrolably but most men do.does this happen in the part of the world you hail from?would you consider it cool?may be i wasn't given the right education on farting which some will say is a build up of gas in the stomache that MUST be release.

i have always wonder why chinese seeing a black man will say KAN HEI REN(see a black man) but with the whites they will say KAN WAI GUO REN.(see a foreigner)sitting in a bus infront of this lovely kid who told her mother to see a foreigner but the mother say no he is a black man.the kid goes on to say his face is black because he hasn't washed it.i was like expecting the mother to educate the kid but to my surprise, she said no is because i don't drink milk.at this point i thought this mother is trying to get his kid to drink milk by scaring him that if he doesn't he will be has dark as me.guess what, i was wrong.she gave another explanation that i was born white but the sun tanned me.i became the topic with others sitting by saying that if i stay a little longer in china i will become white.i took time to educate them and explain why i am this way and why they are what they are.is there any reason chinese people refer to blacks by their skin color and whites as foreigners?

She( Mama) is 23 and we have known each other for three years.she treats me as a big bro and will always ask for advice when ever she cant solely handle any situation.she is really pretty and has never been in to any date before.she has turned down many advances.she moved to shenzhen 7 months ago from shanxi and has a much better job there.two months ago,a classmate who is the boy friend of her best friend introduced a 29 year old boy who has worked in Britain for three years before coming home after a split with his girl friend who dumped him to a more richer guy.she was tripped off on seeing this guy and thinks this is the dream guy for her.before the guy went for the spring break all was like fine and wont stop saying how much his parents will like to meet her.for "Mama",she thinks things are going too fast.she wants to have a boy friend then married comes after but this guy was like they should get married immediately.i can't be sure if this guy was really serious on this or was it just a means to cross the bridge?all along this guy has been wanting sex with "Mama",a thing she has never done before and she has always said she will only do it with the husband.she wants to give the best give of her life to her husband.pressure mounted and on the 14 of february ,a Valentine's day"Mama" believing this guy gave in."Mama" got a job for her best friend in their company and when the friend arrived on the 20 of february "Mama" and the boy friend picked her up at the airport and that evening over dinner,her friend was so excited that "Mama" has finally accept some one.guess what,two days later,the boy told "Mama" that his mother has said he should not marry a girl that is far from their home town meaning that "Mama's" home town being 10 hours away from wuhan where the boy comes from makes it automatically that their relation cant continue.that is the only reason the guy gave for their split. "Mama" is seriously in deep pain and has taken two days off to figure out a solution to her broken heart.she just dont know what s to tell her friend.she told me that what ever it takes she will get her revenge and the out come will be disasterious which leaves me worried that "Mama" may be planning something really bad for this guy.i have tried to talk her down today after she narrated the story but she won't stop crying.i can imagine there is a lot more going in her mind now.her question to me was ,what is her wrong?why this guy have to do this to her when she opened her heart and tell this guy everything.do we really have control of our lifes or fate has it all?i am tempted to ask.what do you think is a change of mind from this guy?is there a possibility that he has seen some one better or truely he has been told by her mother not to marry far from home? DO ANY ONE HAVE A BETTER ADVISE FOR MAMA?I WILL BE GLAD TO PASS IT ON TO HER.

Don't ask my statistics but is estimated that about 800 to 1000 children in china are born to black african parents with chinese wives.the number is likely to increase since africans have a taste of many children and they are not limited to any number of children.the visa situation too may push the figures up as it's increasingly being difficult for africans to renew their visas in china.these marriages may be are real as it can be a short cut to life.children of foreigners have no social benefits in china and like in many western countries if not all, foreigners in this same situation are entitle to all the benefits like the natives.in china,marrying a chinese is no guarantee for your stay and worst still ,you can't work under such a visa(family visa).you still need a working permit before you can work which cost an arm and a leg to africans. the society(chinese people)are not helping the situation.girls married to blacks are seen as worst of women in the world and are labelled as whores.the stares and fidgeting is unbearable.bizarre questions.my friend won't attend the funeral of his father -in-law because the family thinks the reaction of people won't be pleasant and will raise eye brows. In a situation where the father is ejected from china as it has happened many times or was a gold digger and decides to make his family back in his country,what becomes of these children left behind by these black fathers?won't it be nice if the chinese government recognise these children and their fathers like in other countries?this is going to ease up things and make life comfortable to the already stressed up couples?in this way the society gets to know these children too are no way different from other children and deserve to be treated with no prejudice. HOW DO YOU SEE THE FUTURE OF CHINESE CHILDREN BORN OF BLACK PARENTS IN CHINA?i am thinking of bring my wife over to give birth in china.i see many opportunities in future for children born in china.hahahahaa.

I live in a neighborhood where there are many sex shops.they all have varieties of sex items.i have to walk this street atleast twice a day since i have to shuttle to work and back.i noticed that all the shops are owned by married women.after 4pm you will see them sitting inside with their kids.the children either eating, doing their home work or on the computer.on week ends they spend the whole day with their mothers.as young as these kids are some just 8 years,i wonder if they should be in such a place.do they know what their mothers are selling? On a rescent vacation in Taiyuan for the spring festival with a friend who has a chinese wife,i found a similar place like in changzhou where i live.like in changzhou,these shops are close to the train station.same scenario with kids inside.is it a coincidence?i wonder.this time i decided to go inside and see first hand what happens when a buyer walks in. the 11 year old girl by my estimate was sitting on the computer while her mother was in an inner room"mama you ren"she said(mama there is a client).i was looking around when the mother came.the english translaton will read."you study english in school.ask him what he wants"was like my chinese wasn't good enough.did i get that well?she repeated and that was when i had to be proud of my chinese.i wasn't wrong she said it.it appears to me then that this little girl knows what is going on here. I walk to the counter and with a 'ni hao" we pick it up from there.she showed me the different kinds of self sex toys while carefully expalining to me their sensational feelings.you may want to know if her explanation was out of experience.sorry i didn't dare to ask.as the lecture was going on, her daughter was quiet on the computer.i assume she was listening as well and taking down every details.as more people walk in to that shop for different reasons so does the mind of this 11 year is stuffed with ideas. after satisying my curiousity,i ended up buying a set of three set condoms for 32 rmb promising her to come back soon.she offered me two free trail pills she calls them "er shi si ge xiao shi"literary meaning 24 hours non stop 'bedmathics"(sex.) Two days before i was to leave Taiyuan for my city,my friend invited a bunch of friends for dinner.chinese and foreigners alike.it was such a fun dinner that after the dinner we shared life experience.i brought up what i have just experience in Taiyuan.it was such a stir with lots of mix feelings from our invitees. "zhang"said she is not against these sex shops from operating but the fact that kids of such ages lingering inside the shops is unthinkable.she futher explain the great services these sex shops are providing to the public.she argures that these shops helps to keep marriages intact.without these shops some women will turn to cheat on their husbands with daring consiquences if discovered by their husbands.a divorce or death will be the altimate in situations of cheating.she thinks is a good way to avoid STD than trying to get a one night stand if you can't resist the temptation.she said many chinese men are treasure hunters staying away from their family for weeks and even months.so the best solution to these women of treasure hunters will be the sex shop.asked if "zhang" will like to keep one of these "rabbits",she said no with a smile looking at her husband.she said her mind set keeps her going when the husband is not around. "kenny"adds that even the husbands are there,they come back won out and their wives never get as much as they would have liked to.with no intension of offending any one ,'KENNY" said the sex shops are plusable subsitute to most chinese men.that even bad luck cant explain the unfair treatment of asian men why nature wasnt too kind to them. "TOM" is concern with the traditionalism preached every where in china.most chinese women thinks they are very traditional and will shy away when 'bedmathic sport"(sex) topics are being brought up.he said puting their kids in this kind of places at very early ages what are they trying to teach the kids?not to be traditional.i disagree with "TOM".going to the sex shop to buy what ever doesn't take out the traditionalism in you.tradition doesn't say we shouldn't have "bedmathic sports".don't just do "bedmathic sports" with the whole city.chose one "bedmathematician"i appreciate the fact that while we should up hold our tradition it shouldn't scale down our life styles. "REN" has a more sensitive view on this.she thinks since sex education is not taught in chinese schools,mothers of sex shops are indirectly giving their kids sex education.they will grow up being more aware of their surroundings that their pees of same age.they are better place to avoid un wanted pregnacies and avoid SDT's.more to that they are very well orientated and can excel in some lucrative jobs where others will shy away from."TOM" said you may be right but that opens the door for an active early "bedmathic sports" for kids which goes against tradtionalism. "HONG" is getting furious and to her, topics like this needs not be discussed.anything "bedmathics"should only be between husband and wife and should end in the cover of darkness in their bedrooms.if we continue on this topic she will leave.my friend's wife pleaded with us not to spoil such a fun night so we had to switch to keep ''HONG''with us for the rest of the evening. Not even one chinese male participated in the discussion.i wonder if was because "HONG" cut it short or was it because ''KENNY" said earlier that most chinese men got nothing down there so the "rabbit"(artificial penis in sex shop) is what many chinese women are rushing for. may be chinese men are more traditional than the women. The next day i decided to have a bath in one of the many public baths in Taiyuan.as i strip down,eyes started rowling and i heard a "kan lao wai"-look at that foreigner.another voice came this time with a much more surprise in it's tone."woooh,lao wai".your guess is as good as mind why the big "woooh"what i cant be proud of among my friends turns out to be a "wooooh" to others.i was the one eye man in the country of the blind.as i walk down to the shower,guys streaming around.while they were satisying their curiousity,i was confirming what "KENNY" said during the dinner.(chinese men got nothing down there)it was a clear win win situation.I had to hurry up my bath much against my wish because i was abit uncomfortable with the situation around.it was all about foreigners now.when i finished and was heading to dress up this guy showed me a thumbs up accompanied with "very goodda".i can't imagine what was going in his mind when he said that.the thumbs up was for what?.i was chocking inside with laughter but i manage to resist.i hurriedly went outside and burst in to laughter.i didnt say a single word while inside there.had i did i would have ended up holding a conference on foreign "rabbit"it becomes clear to me that there is need for more sex shops like this in china but without kids inside. As for the free trail pills(TWO),i haven't tried them but will if i am lucky to get my EX back.how i wish i had visited this sex shop long before now.my EX won't have gone.no woman will dare go leaving behind 24 hours not stop "bedmathics bedmathetician" I hope i didn't spoil your day with my article.what is your take on this.will a child be able to answer a question like what does your mother do?if the mother owns a sex shop?thanks for reading. ' ' '

Hi folks.i am increasingly worried of one thing and i wish some one can help me out or make me clear my doubts. is amazing to see young girls and boys of 21 years getting married in china.it rescently happened to a girl i am used to.she is 21 and the husband 22.when i tired to ask her how they gonna live given that the husband is not having a good job and she too is taking care of their 6 months baby boy.she futher told me the mother-in-law forced her to have a baby much against her will.that she wasn't ready to be a mother yet. in my country,marriage involves alot of expenditure and i think in china is even more.when i try to ask where did they get money to do their wedding she told me the husband's parents did everything.by everything i mean getting the house they are living in now,bride price and covering the wedding cerimony,even now the parents are still very supportive with basics.she said her in laws are not rich enough but she is very happy that only a small sum of money was borrowed to cover their wedding expenditures and they will try to pay off the debt as soon as they can. here comes my worries.i used to think that easy come easy go.when these young people get married do they really know what marriage is all about?are they doing it because they really want or trying to please their parents?is it worth it to please some one and displease yourself?is not the a major contributing factor of many devorce cases in china?i see it this way and i wonder if i get a point year.because these couples spent virtually nothing but their time ,they just don't feel the burden of it and will certainly see no need to protect or persevere the marriage.it will be very easy for them to let go in the face of a minor dispute.imagine if you spend your life saving to get marriage,you will atleast think seriously before letting it go.you must try to exhaust all possible measures to stay in the relationship before letting it go. i will tell you what.she has started complaining.she is not seeing enough of the husband since she gave birth.it seems chinese men are are only interested in women when they need a child not for themself but to be called a grand son or daughter.i think the situation is not as bad as it seems and is time the young guys start thinking and making some changes before they got caught up in fairy tale love. i will appreciate if some one can make me understand better.thanks.happy spring festival to all