Nowadays, house means far more than a place for warmth and rest in China, which has become an external manifestation of one's fortune and social status. Most women would find it risky and unacceptable to get married without a flat. What's more, woman would be more interested in where the house locates and how many square meters it is than a man himself. Here are several stories which happened around me.
Story 1
Mr J is a handsome man with a well-paid job in Beijing. Two years ago, Mr J met a girl Miss L who just came back after graduation in Britain. They both had a big crush on each other and had a great fun for a whole year. However, Mr J holds that he cann't afford a house in Beijing for Miss L who always has a life of privilege. Hence, Mr J broke up with his lover because he can not have a steady life in Beijing. Now, Mr J's only heed is paid to earn money as much as he can, so one day he will own a big house in a big city , and finally get married.
Story 2
Originally, Mrs A rent an appearance house which is to do some business. In order to expand her business, she intends to buy the rent one and purchase another house for her son who just came back from the vet. A few days ago, Mrs A told me that there are many matchmakers introduce girls to her son. I asked " Do you worry that some girls pays much attention to your houses rather than your dear son?" She replied " Well, if you do not have a house, there is nothing to talk about, let alone tie the knot." I'm amazed about her practical but reasonable answer. What matters most in marriage? House or true love? Is this a stupid question?
Story 3
After a quarrel, Miss G does not want to reconcile with her boyfriend any more. But all relatives persuade her that she should take the chance and marry her current boyfriend, siince that man has an old house in Nanjing. In other words, she is going to be rich one day when the old house is demolished. Now the wedding day is fixed.
I do not want to show you how worldly Chinese girls are! That is not my purpose, period.
Chinese girls may be more practical and mature to choose a guy for getting married in order to lead a better life.
I am stll shocked about the strictly utilitarian role of a house plays, which is beyond the flowing emotion from bottom of hearts.
If you ask me am I willing to get married without a house, I am not sure. WILL YOU?
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