Compare with last 20 years, our transportation and communication system are much more advanced and perfect. Due to those factors, a new kind of love style is emerging gradually. That is long distance love. It can be simply defined as two lovers who can’t stay in the same place because of some external reasons.

Have you ever experience a long distance love?

What is your biggest problem during that period?

My boyfriend and I are experiencing long distance love. He told me that some sentences which describe long distance love have impressed him deeply. Here come his original words.

I stay alone, while I am not lonely.

The people without accompanied is always feeling a series of anxiety, depression and helplessness. However not all the people without accompanied are singles, they are one partner of the long distance lovers. They have dinner by themselves, work by themselves, overcome the pressure by themselves etc. They may be in blue while they must be full of joy as they go back home and face the screen of PC or pick up the phones. It is not other reasons just because they don’t want their dear darlings to see their pain. What they want convey is, “ I am fine and I miss u.”

I trust in you even you shoot at me, I still believe it is an accident.

The base of any strong relationship is trust. Distance is a horrible thing that can ruin the trust as soft as dust, and distance is an amazing thing that can strengthen the trust as hard as diamond. Many lovers are damaged by suspicion. Different life styles and timetables create huge gaps between lovers, which makes they can’t communicate with each other directly. The so-called jet liners make the lovers worried and anxious, which will cause suspect if they didn’t explain clearly. In many occasions, lovers may discuss because of misunderstanding the other and they disregard it as arguments. In fact, they should say,” sorry, dear. I trust u. can u say something?”

Boys and girls have different emphasis towards love, especially long distance love. As a girl, I will say something from girl’s aspect. Boys can freely add your opinions if you read this blog.

The secret to maintain a long distance love is trust your lover. Under different circumstances, it is easy for you to cause misunderstanding in two places. And because of the distance, your communication channel is solely a cell phone or PC. Different people read the same message can cause different emotion, because words have no expression, voice which can worsen the misunderstanding. Therefore, if something bad appears between you, give her a call. Sometimes, all she wants is just your soft voice.

Both of you should control your tongue before the bad words come out from your mouth. Those bad words are not our innermost thoughts but the drug produce by a monster named emotion. They are not like knife or scissors but the degree of injury is much powerful.

Just like a book’s name, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, boys and girls consider different aspects towards the same issue. Long distance love kill two lovers’ hug, night-walking and some other best things. To some extent, girls are more sensitive, they pay attention to details. Maybe your short message about tomorrow’s weather before sleeping can bring her a good dream. In front of others, girls like to show their independence, bravery. They only show their blue or weakness in front of you, not because they are terrible or useless, but because they love you. They hope their lover can be their little sun to bring them sunlight and they only permit their beloved boys to do this.

I am undergoing a long distance love. What is worse is that I don’t know the exact date of the ending. Sometimes, I will be blue, lonely and frustrated. Sometimes I found my life is a mess. I am not sorry for that. I think those bad situation are proved that I am growing up. I reckon that the most important thing for girls to do is to find our life style. We should keep walking on our road, and if everything is smoothly, one day your road will crossed with another road. At that moment you will find your over-missed face appears in front of you. Baby, don’t cry, because that’s the ending of the long distance love.