Paradox re. attractiveness of Chinese women to white men
2014-05-03
Based on some posts I've read here over the last year, it seems like white guys usually find Asian women attractive.Through this site, I met a few nice Chinese ladies, whom I consider friends. Some are "left-over" and some are divorced, and therefore, it is hard for them to find a good guy in China. They asked me to help them find a nice foreigner guy to marry.
I know a few fellow white American guys who are single, or divorced, and about the right age. I approached them letting them know I could hook them up with a wholesome Chinese woman with honorable intentions. She would be a loyal, attractive wife, not spend money like crazy or act irresponsible, and be a good life partner. But the men are not interested.
Maybe they suspect foul play; like a scam. Maybe they think it is too much trouble, that they are just looking for a passport or money, or that a long-distance relationship cannot work.
But I think it is just narrow-mindedness. Just like the Chinese men are only open to a young, unmarried, beautiful lady, the American men are only open to other American women.
Too bad, I think it is a good match. The American man sometimes has been mistreated and it resulted in divorce. Maybe the same for the Chinese woman. Only now, the Chinese woman's youth is gone, so she has a very tough challenge to find a new mate. For the American man, only the scope of his thinking (and maybe lack of patience?) is limiting him.
One thing the Chinese women need to realize though, is that not all American men have money. The ones that are "left-over" and open-minded enough to consider a Chinese woman are often broke, since their previous wife beat them up in divorce court. So the Chinese woman should know that she will have to do it for love, and no other reason, and that she may need to work to help keep the family afloat.
The thinking of marrying foreigners in hope of better life is normal .No Woman be she foreign or Chinese would marry for marrying sake .love is love but we must consider that ,one can't marry sb who is not fit .someone who is of no use in society .marrying such person because of Will only cause pain .
Women should marry based on the men's readiness for marriage .If a man is ready for marriage he would find ways to keep the marriage intact .
I think it's because love isn't as simple as 1 + 1 = 2. It's complicated and can't be explained logically.
Next time you gonna introduce a Chinese girl to your Western friend, just introduce them casually without telling him your intention (or her intention) beforehand. See if they can talk and become good friends. If he gradually becomes interested in her, then he won't care about her past or background and you don't need to explain anything.
I always do this and it works =)
Oh, look! Two people, a woman and a man, posts right next to each other, both looking for a mate. But they are both looking for a foreigner, so didn't consider each other!
You know, I didn't marry a foreigner on purpose, and I certainly wasn't seeking another foreigner when my marriage failed. If Ms. Right was American too, I wouldn't turn her away. ;)
i agree with you partly.and i think both of spouse who comes from different countries and cultures may have a special life if they wanna live together for a long long time,because they have many many things to deal with,to konw each other traditon ,culture ,life stytle and so on,so i wanna a foreign girlfriend,and hope she will become my wife.
My marriage got worse and worse from the 3rd year. I was divorced in the 4th year. It's the 7th year from our meeting.
Yes, the famous "7-year Itch." I was divorced after 9 years. (close to the 10 years juliuy said.)
There's no way to know ahead of time how things will change over these years. All we can do is try to understand each other.
We read the book 'The 5 Love Languages' by Gary Chapman, and it gave us insight that will help, long-term. I highly recommend it to everyone who is or wants to be in a romantic relationship.
No, I think Maierwei is a woman too...
Yes, they are certainly different animals than our American women. (for better or worse)
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