How to deal with your relationship
2013-07-26
A man of many words is general unwelcomed.
Sometimes i am talktive girl during date with my girlfriends,but never talk over somebody else's problems,expecially our colleagues.It's weakness of character for most people ,especial for woman.
I like to analysis other peoples' affairs and learn by their experience.Because nobody have enough time and chance to experience everything so that to avoid making mistakes.But you may profit by the erroes of somebody else.Recently two of my colleague always pick quarrels with each other for a mess nonthingness.They may lose nothing but good mood.While there are bad effecton on regular work.Such as decreased efficency,delay task enable time,impede comunication of each other.
Everytime they are arguing at office,i will do self-examination and think about it.If i were one of them,what should i do ?How do i deal with these things?
At last i tell myself and do it as below:
1.Never quarrel with any one in public.
2.If we make mistake during work,check myself before blaming others' fault.
3.Always be strict with oneself and lenient towards others.
4.Be careful at anything done by yourself
5.Do not make friend with small-mind man,and do not angry with such man.
6.Never wast time to explain yourself to someone when he maintained you are idiot,never talk a lot to convince someone who is unreasonable,because when you try to do these things ,it seems like they make you into idiot successfully.
7.Remember that argument is to lower yourself in moral.
Keep working hard and be yourself.
Dear friend,thanks so much for your addtional two points,it's wisdom words and suit for all people when they are in anger,disppointment,upset ect.
PS: may your China trip be wonderful and happy.pls share more picture in blogs
Highly appreciated your comments,i am happy to share my personal thoughs of life /work /emotion ect,now it's seems an unexpected occurred for me,that you learned something from these words.
,"but never talk over somebody else's problems -- I like to analysis other peoples' affairs and learn by their experience" Don't you think how wisdow these words are? but my answer is definitely yes. In life, we easly refer to others'problems so that normal relationship will be violated. i'm often puzzled in it.but i learn something from those words above.
You have a good list here, I will add these two also. Just my opinion.
8) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
9) The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness
Sometimes it is wise just to turn away from a confrontation, especially if it is someone who is small minded and not reasonable. Let them think what they want, the wise will recognize you as a person with wisdom and your worth in their eyes will grow.
To argue with fools is a lost cause. They cannot see they are fools.
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