When we talk about the danger of romantic love, we don't want to express the obvious heartbreak, such as ashamed betrayals, the broken promises, we want to point out the potential risks under the dogmatic idea, romantic love is the final goal for the modern women, which will be trusted as the truth by sensible, educated women.
For this group of women, they are good at observing the real case around their friends and colleagues. Their empirical side plays the major role when they find that the couples who built a family based on adoration and sex, quarrelling and throwing china virulently ten years later, fighting for the trivial things frequently.
However, the women who noticed that these contradictions are always afraid of talking about these matters in case of others label them as cynics people. Surely only the most jaded and wounded would challenge the orthodoxy of romantic love. Because they are willing to have a decent family and a pleasant relationship with their spouses.
Honestly, we think: give privilege of romantic love over all kinds of other things, the insistence that it is an vital, undoubted element for the construction of human happiness, even though traced backed to the caves in primitive times, is a trap and a snare.
Love is the forever pursue for the mankind, the only change is the interpretation of the love. The way that love has been expressed, and the significance of love in our daily life have never been immutable or consistent.
To enjoy the romantic love and pleasant relationship with your partners, you should be a wise man becasue most of the conflicts can be avoided and solved by patience and wit. The romantic love is the symbol of your charm and ability, the idea of being a happy person is to customize love without the restrictions of traditional ideas and cliches.
As in all the churches of the saints, 34 the women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. 35 If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.
14 Pursue love, and earnestly desire the spiritual gifts, especially that you may prophesy. 2 For one who speaks in a tongue speaks not to men but to God; for no one understands him, but he utters mysteries in the Spirit. 3 On the other hand, the one who prophesies speaks to people for their upbuilding and encouragement and consolation.
Understand?
So in conclusion - if you need romantic love then you do not love yourself - and certainly not your neighbour as you love yourself - because you don't love yourself. You probably just need someone to wash your underpants for you and stuff.
If you love yourself then you don't need romantic love because you have the ability to love your brother/neighbour - so it would be impossible for you to love one person more than another - this individual would be capable of Corinthians type love for all.
How about that Muslim guy that built the Taj Mahal. He was crazy.
What is love anyway? It is insanity. Like limerence. Romantic love is just varying degrees of insanity if you really think about it.
Many men are so insecure that they need someone to tell them that they love them. They doubt whether they are actually worthy of love so when they find a female that tells them they love them they feel so relieved, but they worry that they might not find another female that is so easily satisfied so they put a ring on it. The secure individual that knows he is worthy of love does not need it. He loves himself.
To me the saddest, most pathetic and most dishonest thing in the world is an old working class married couple that have been together since they were young.
And most poor working class men get married so they have someone to wash their underpants for them. If they could secure a harem of young beauties with upward pointing breasts they most certainly would - but they cannot so they settle for a female that will live with them and wash their underpants for them.
I think that needing love is just a sign of insecurity. The secure individual does not need or want romantic love because romantic love makes you half a person.
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