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Post time 2014-6-11 01:44:28 |Display all floors
Whether in the West or in the East female are more sociable than males. Marriage takes place on the condition of one (male) proposes and one (female) accepts. Chinese men take longer (sometimes too long) to get through the process of reaching to the stage of thinking about marriage. All the eight reasons tabulated here are factors supporting this fact that Chinese men simply take longer time to reach the point to make a proposal, Women are far more susceptible to be whipped off their feet by fast romantic deeds and accept a proposal. Chinese men are just not used to doing that. It is just a culture gap in the courting ritual. Being the single child in the family has little to do with why Chinese men make slow moves. It is more to do with traditional Chinese philosophy of placing career on a much higher priority than marriage and romance.   Chinese men won't buy flowers for women casually even though they can easily afford them. Chinese men (good candidates for husbands) most likely will not go to a bar to engage a one-night stand. If sex happened too quickly, it would actually jeopardize the relationship to continue to 'marriage thoughts;'. So western women have to be more patient and have to go beyond just making up pretty to go on a date with a Chinese man; don't expect fast actions. On the other hand, if a western woman did get a proposal (barring those with ulterior motives) from a Chinese man, it is likely she had got a good catch, because it would have taken the man a long time to arrive at that proposal. If the proposal were accepted, it would most likely lead to a long lasting marriage.

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Post time 2014-6-11 02:17:51 |Display all floors
Interesting stereo  typing of Chinese men . I got one why do Chinese walk backwards ?
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Post time 2014-10-26 10:31:09 |Display all floors
So many emotive responses. Social relationship, values and behaviours are different in every culture. If someone chooses to marry into another culture they must understand the differences and possible problems. Generally speaking, Chinese men like to "play" together and their attitude towards women may be different. Generally speaking, Western men seem more courteous and polite, more attentive and romantically demonstrative. I have not met a woman who does not like these traits.I find Chinese women to be some of the most beautiful in the world, many are very clever, thoughtful and kind. I think they should be valued as such and not just regarded as child rearers. And Chinese women are showing signs of wanting good jobs and careers instead of a desperate urge to marry before they are 30.  Oh maybe I am just a romantic "foreign devil"!

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Post time 2014-10-26 12:29:49 |Display all floors
TedM Post time: 2014-10-26 10:31
So many emotive responses. Social relationship, values and behaviours are different in every culture ...

Your specious rhetoric sounds like true.

Would you please step off your soapbox? Next , let's invite US President Wanna Hillary Clinton to deliver her speech about her overly romantic hubby Billy.

There is one spectacle grander than the sea, that is the sky; there is one spectacle grander than the sky, that is the interior of the soul.-Victor Hugo

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Post time 2014-11-25 11:15:48 |Display all floors
I've had 2 long term Chinese female partners with whom I was/am serious (still with the second). I had one child by the first and have 2 with my current partner. First of all it is fact that culturally Chinese men inherently measure success by how many women he can support and is seen to have more social capital if he is married and also has women on the side; especially by other Chinese men. Second, Chinese women have little interest in romance, compassion or love, both my partners have dismissed love as silly even in a serious relationship, it is not practical nor as useful as money. Thirdly, Chinese women do not try to save face in public, they will nag you in public about spending $2 on your son where they wouldn't, even to the point of making a public scene no matter how much you try to ignore them. Fourth, intimacy and sex even in a long term relationship with a Chinese woman who you are familiar with and who's obviously familiar with you is scarce, it is not wild, nor does it interest them. They seem to only want sex if they want children often or if you spend a week buying them gifts and coercing them. Fifth, Chinese women are so tied to their parents that even if their parent is completely clueless and ordering their adult daughter (your wife) to do something which is even illegal in western culture, (where I was/am with both my ex and current partner) they will not stand up to them or dare suggest their parents are wrong to their face even though they know their parents are. Never again will I have a serious relationship, let alone a child with a Chinese woman. My current relationship is on the ropes now due to my Chinese mother in law who allows my 2 yr old son to run around with scissors in her care; and my partners reluctance to rebuke her for it, and partly due to my Chinese partners reluctance towards intimacy, compassion and general attitude in rebuking me over crap while her mother does some of the most stupidly horrifically dangerous things with my sons (she thinks shaking my infant son to sleep is ok while my partner allows this.) My Chinese ex kidnapped my nearly 1 yr old son overseas and I never saw him again until after he turned 2, that was at the whim of her father who was a misogynistic cheater who overstepped the mark between myself and my first son in ways no western man would tolerate. No, never again will I have a Chinese girlfriend or wife. I wouldn't advise it lest you are willing to absolutely submit to them in every way possible, including your dignity and self respect.

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Post time 2014-11-25 11:35:37 |Display all floors
WOW! date. 2014-5-23 11:28
                                Many Chinese ladies disappointed after they experienced it.

They often think that a man pushes cha ...
guess what, I did/do push chairs, open doors, buy exorbitant gifts for my ex and current partner who both think nothing of ridiculing, arguing and nagging in public. Both my ex and current partner said love and romance is rubbish and not necessary or practical. I had one child by my ex, whom she kidnapped and took overseas, he wasnt even 1 yr old, I never saw him until after he turned  2. My ex even attacked me with scissors over one of her stupid moods because I bought her the wrong juice or snack or something. My current partner isn't much better, she is Chinese too. What's so great about Chinese women, they get moody, they think nothing of belittling you and robbing you of your dignity. Never again would I have a long term serious relationship with a Chinese woman and I advise western males of my experiences across many sites. Unless you can satisfy a Chinese woman financially all the time she will laud it over you, but when you do have money she will demand it from you and still laud it over you because you are now broke because you gave her everything. Chinese women in over ten years intimate experience with them, do value money higher than people, unless it's their parents who they owe for life and dare not question or confront even if their parent is stupid.

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Post time 2015-1-28 20:27:21 |Display all floors
got to agree with Ted on this.
this is piece of emotive nonsense showing a typical Chinese stereotypical attitude to non-Chinese women.
But I suspect this is the type of fiction that some people like to hear.

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