my wife's parents asked me at least 30k RMB, but I only gave them 20k RMB as the bride price.
before my marriage they told me, it will be returned to their daughter and they just don't wanna to lose face in front of relatives and friends.
But one year has passed, her daughter never revceived that money.
I don't care too much, because 20k is a little sum.But I don't like the way they did, I don't think they did it for their daugher's good
I think having your own house proves your competence to your potential mother or father-in-law that you are capable of taking good care of their daughter. She could probably be their only. However, if my potential father-in-law demanded a fixed amount from me every month, I will flee with her daughter before he wakes from sleep.
Feel so sorry for Richard! What terrible people! I married my Chinese wife 7 years ago and we live in Beijing. My parents gave us some money for our wedding and my Chinese in-laws paid for the wedding itself. And that was it. Any talk of "appointment fees" or "upfront payments" would have sent me running away from/with her and probably this country. Hope you can either tell her parents to back off or find another girl with a reasonable/ less-extortionate family! I'm sure your mom and dad must think Chinese are great people after this experience. Sigh. Best of luck!
A booking fee to meet with her parents? There is no such practice, by tradition or otherwise, unlike having to provide a house or dowry. Either the writer is real dumb or he's fibbing, or it's a scam by his girlfriend, since he could have easily checked with friends of his or his fiancee. Or a fairy tale, most likely.