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It's great to know that chivalry is still alive! :)
Tis so sweet to have a nice platonic outing, isn't it? Dining and wining a woman without expectations of having some wild sex as an 'end reward' - this is just good to know. In a nutshell, I'm glad to know that chivalry is not a dying trait! |
I've read Brad's thread of dos and don'ts on 3D meet-ups - which is practical as well in some or many ways (kinda streetsmart advise - but not a cure-all thing for everyone). Some may beg to differ from Brad's advise - by not adhering to the rules religiously, some still end up unscalded! On the contrary, some followed the rules intently, but and still end up half-charred. So, it's subjective and based on sheer luck at times, isn't it?
Though we can try to expand and constrict the department upstairs, we can't discern for sure - it's the risk we take - all in the name of being adventurous and being open-minded! We can try guessing till we're blue in the face, but that's only being judgemental in some ways by not chancing it? We can gauge who are the baddies / goodies by 'reading between the lines' at times? Time will tell through many swappings of emails / chats / other 'ports' of communication.
Anyway, Johnners, allow me to connect my piece to your thread... as I'd like share with the rest of the readers about online relationships. There's always some sort of a bitter-sweet stigma about admitting to having met someone online - for some, this is a burning question at the back of their minds. I know of many skeptics out there who'd say that this is like some blind-date exercise that would spell only this, 'Geez, you're so ugly that you need to be set up!"
Come to think of this, isn't this a totally unfair prejudice? However, people cannot help being mean *shrug*. Who likes to admit to the fact that they need help or are seeking for a partner... as they've not met one nearby that is palatable, or make their pulses skip a beat? So, here we are... with the conveniences of the net! It's the only way to meet minds from other countries and people from different walks of life, aye? Let's put looks and all that's physical aside... internet chatting and internet love connections or whatever they call it today was initially created to help busy people meet others outside of their social circle... but of course, at this day and age, we have those who have taken advantage of this service by making it into some circus, or a breeding ground for prowlers... this evolution has of course, created a new generation of net horror stories.
However, the there's another side of the coin in regards to this... the internet in this day and age, apart from it's horror stories, has either directly or indirectly helped a lot of people with their love lives, or built great friendships, or interract with those who are like-minded, or meet a kindred spirit etc. Take for example, the recent Elle/MSNBC.com Cybersex and Romance Survey conducted has the following results: A whopping "40 million surfers in the US log onto personals sites and around half of the women and 36 per cent of the men that visited personal sites said that the activity has made a positive impact on their social life".
So, stumbling upon love online is no longer a surprise these days? I've known of a few friends who have met their online 'friends' and fostered great friendships (I have a few good pals that I meet up for a drink or two or a movie from time to time - and I look fine and have lots of friends I know via my own social network in real life). Some of my friends have actually hit it off with those they have chatted with! I attended their weddings years ago, and they now have families of their own and everything else that's sweet and rosy.
The Net in this sense, is almost a great fix for many people's social / love life. Imagine, with just a button's click away, you get to log on and chat with anyone, anywhere, anytime! It's not wrong to depend on serendipity and fate to work via the good ol' fashion style (if you don't mind your relatives' / friends' / workmates' network of introducing possible partners). I must say that all these possibilities have to work overtime to cater to the endless, infinite pressure - all eyes are on ya. The Net brings not only privacy, or the chance of meeting someone right for you, but also in TEACHING and INFORMING you on who suits you best, what YOU should do to make yourself more 'marketable' and so on...without anyone meddling or sticking their noses into your love life.
Well, that's my humble opinion - anyone has anything else to add on or share?