Rhonda rich has been writing about the Southern Belle mystic for most of her life. She is one. LaWanda Shields is a Black American author who explores another view of what I call the "Neverending Flirt" and who shares her insights on many websites and books..There are many women (and men for that matter) who have researched and written about the delicacies of "Flirting" as a life style. In China the most common reference is "sajiao", in Japan it is called "amae".
Cultures around the world have adapted the 'way of being female' into young girls training. You will not find this in the back country's of the world. You will only find this in the sophistication of the cultured and educated. It has been around so long it has been refined and adapted to each and every culture existing in a cultural society which DOES NOT have a life based on religious beliefs though that is not always the case.
There are no requirements except to be female. One does not AUTOMATICALLY need beauty, education and wealth to excel in this female only trait. It is part of a society which has back door and behind closed door roots and passed from family to family through the female. China is losing this art since the one child policy was implemented. Chinese women who did survive the shock need to take careful steps to secure 'sajiao' so it is not lost in the shuffle. It is a rare find indeed if one is to see this art written or even published.
There is no bad art- art in every form has only good and better . The fine art of sajiao needs to be preserved however the keepers of this art are disappearing at a tremendous rate by attrition and only a conscious effort will this be preserved.
This post is to provoke positive discussion and to feel the pulse of the readers---not to instigate or be a field of battle for cultural supremacy.