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do you often quarrel with you bf/gf? why do you dispute? [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2009-5-6 17:26:18 |Display all floors
[quote]Originally posted by xilaren at 2009-5-6 16:54

Everything can be solved and forgotten if there is love.We simply must \be careful never hurt our lover's feelings and make him understand that we do not love him [


love can not cover up contradiction!1:)

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Post time 2009-5-6 17:28:59 |Display all floors
Originally posted by tamson at 2009-5-6 17:26
[quote]Originally posted by xilaren at 2009-5-6 16:54

Everything can be solved and forgotten if there is love.We simply must \be careful never hurt our lover's feelings and make him under ...

Love can not be healthy when one loves and the other hurts continually.
There is no balance.:Q
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Post time 2009-5-6 22:50:23 |Display all floors
it's the trifle in daily life that erodes our lives. sometimes, we maybe tired because there are too many work in the office and the boss got angry with you.If we could find a better way to let the wmwtions out, a quarrel may be followed.

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Post time 2009-5-7 10:44:27 |Display all floors
Originally posted by tamson at 6-5-2009 13:49
but why the quarel fequency become higher and higher than ever.
compared with other lovers living in my school life, their frequent quarel seems like abnormal!
why other lovers can live much more ...


frequency becoming higher is because of nowaday's big pressure and stress, especially during the World economic crisis.
and it appears to be more normal these days, heck we're living in 2009 already....  fights/quarrels, are just common things.

Lovers living peacefully together for LIFE? That is just a fairtyale. Such "perfectness" doesn't exist. There are no perfect people, also no perfect couples, no matter HOW you see it. They just don't exist.  
Do not think that less quarrel means more chance last for life. Many couples are going very well, but after a year or 2, 3 they suddenly broke up because of a stupid fight or reason, while they NEVER FIGHT before!!
Yeah thats the key!: they never fight that hard before and now think "Oh we're not suitable, let's break up!"  -.-. You understand where Im going now?  Life needs experience, so does Love and relationships.  The more fights you have had with your love, the more you know HOW to handle it, because you both will be experienced by then.  That's why I say as long one or both will make first steps to communicate again after a fight, that relationship will only become stronger and better, fights will be more easily handled next time or even avoid.  That's the key to a long lasting love and NOT "finding" the one , finding someone or that kind of bullsh*t..... Love is a learning progress for life, NOT a "seek, hide and FOUND YOU"-little game.

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Post time 2009-5-7 11:19:24 |Display all floors

Reply #25 auchengyu's post

do you believe that a couple of lover they regularly break out a querrel or fight once or twice a month for half year. they just start the relationship in last April.  
how do you think about this ralationship.

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Post time 2009-5-7 11:28:24 |Display all floors
Originally posted by auchengyu at 2009-5-7 10:44


frequency becoming higher is because of nowaday's big pressure and stress, especially during the World economic crisis.
and it appears to be more normal these days, heck we're living in 2009 a ...

hi,auchengyu how have you been? P how thoroughly you see about the quarrels in a relationship! I totally agree with you

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Post time 2009-5-7 15:19:56 |Display all floors
Originally posted by tamson at 7-5-2009 11:19
do you believe that a couple of lover they regularly break out a querrel or fight once or twice a month for half year. they just start the relationship in last April.  
how do you think about this ...


if they just started, you cant say much about it.  querrels happen and just happens.
But you have to compare it with the frequency they actually MEET and SEE eachother.  If 2 people see eachother only once a month and you say they fight once a month (every time they see) that's like 100% fight frequency...not really good yeah...
So you have to compare how often they see eachother against how many times is fighting. and HOW long it will take for them to recover again, thus good well together again?

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