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Thursday, May 08, 2008|
Last night, I called cousin and we chatted for one hour and a half, we talked about the viewpoint of life, marriage and other matters.
From that time I knew some of her love story. That was a person that introduced a boy to her several years ago when she didn’t marry, that is the so-call blind-date. One day, when she was with her sister at one restaurant eating and he called her, and she invited him for the dinner also.
When he came, during the dinner, he said:” I think you are not a well-behavior person, you should be act like every well-educated person.” My cousin told me:” I was scared, I am only speak a little higher and I don’t think it is worth of consider that I am impolite. But after the dinner, he didn’t pay for the bill at all, which disappointed me deeply.”
And that was another time, he came with his sister, they came into the restaurant, and he said:” You see, you should take off my clothes and put it into the chair before you sit down, you are not acting rightly.” I was funned by his words and I asked cousin:” What is your reaction about this?”
She said:” well, he is that kind of person, and he didn’t pay for the bill also, so I was cold down and I didn’t marry him.”
She gave me some advice that how to select a right person for marriage, she told me that education isn’t only education but also involve in ability, culture, diathesis and so on. It is in general speaking but not in all. For example, a company will never hire the one to be a manager if their educational background only middle school, maybe that is some, but it is very few.
When I was also cold down, she asked my attitude of the stuffs that happened on me last year. I told her that my attitude was totally changed after I spoke with his mother and I started to dislike him.
When I told his mother that he didn’t inform me at all for bring his ex-girlfriend to come to his home for Spring Festival and cohabited for several months, I didn’t know how he can do this and he must inform me that I was with him.
Out of my expectation, his mother said:” My son is also behaving rightly and I am proud of him.” She doesn’t blame her son at all and I should accept it as normal that really drove me crazy. Beside, she also told me that I should pay for the half part of the housing, that is to say, I need to have enough money in order to marry him, or else I am not qualify.
At her lifetime, her husband beats her regularly whenever he doesn’t please with her, and she told me that I should also regard it as reasonable, and I should welcome any home violence, that was also crazy.
When she knew that I was crazy for what he done, she told me:” You should wait and I will see both of you, who is better to be my daughter-in-law.” I was damn disappointed when after I heard her words, her son, not money, not high-education, not even high ability, why should I satisfy so much for him, I am even much better than him.
And I knew that she was quarreled with her first son at the first day of Spring Festival, it will never happen in my family, she can’t even handle well the relationship between her and her son, and how could she be able to nurse a son that capable of everything?
When the girl left him for illegal cohabitation, he turned back to me and asked for love, he spoke at this way:” Tell me you accept it or not, if yes, I will come to you and if not, I won’t contact you again.” I was shocked by his words, am I as cheap as callet, what do him think of love? so I refused it and told him firmly not, but he didn’t get it and bothered me, and I came to know him more. he is that kind of person that lack of diathesis.
I forgive myself for my mistake, that I didn’t choose the right person to fall in love. and I didn’t know him even I spent almost one year for the so-called love, and also I appreciated because I have learnt so much from it.