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Wanting to do many things at the same time is just wanting to expand your experiences. Wanting to expand one's experiences is because it helps to build one's ability to express oneself in one's own style. Wanting to express oneself is a basic drive of the young.|
So: action <---> experience <---> expression.
That i think is why the young like to use their mobile more than anyone else. Whether it is sending or receiving a call/sms/download, It has action, experience and expression all in one wrapped around by a sense of 'convenience' (anywhere, anytime).
It may be because during the age when one is young, the growth hormones work to create the need to be active and to find out more. Perhaps there is a biological reason why these hormones activate during this time - could it be that action/experience/expression help the person to develop more skills and knowledge to protect and build himself/herself more strongly for the next stage of life?
However, it is not all positive. If a person does something but without focusing step-by-step on what she is doing, then how much can she possibly learn from doing it?
So it remains to say that this situation of not paying attention to details gets aggravated in today's fast-moving, consumer-oriented society. Everyone seems to be rushing somewhere to do 'something', or trying to make money to buy 'something'. But do they look carefully at what they are trying to 'do, or the 'thing' they desire, or do they examine themselves whether they really need to take the specific action, or to desire the thing in the first place?
By slowing down the pace a bit, even for a few seconds more so that you can look at (a) where you came from to (b) where you want to go, in turn realizing (c) what you want to do, and (d) what is the thing being looked at, the experience to be gained becomes sharper, and the knowledge gained richer, which in turn makes the expression of personal style...more unique and fulfilling.
If the mind is calm, the thoughts can flow better, the actions will be more focused and balanced, thus so too the flowering of personal style.
Once this becomes second nature, it will only get easier and easier. Once it gets easier, confidence will surface naturally, self-doubts will reduce themselves, and nervousness will give way to careful action thought out beforehand.
Lastly, it is alright to make mistakes - but it is more fun to challenge oneself : 'i shall not repeat my mistakes.' or, more strongly, 'i shall not make the same mistake twice.'
However, this again is not entirely positive. When one is too focused on wanting to do something extraordinarily well, it can crimp the development of character and personality which become so worked up that being a more balanced person will become difficult, perhaps forfeited.
Some people want to be extremely good at something; others will be satisfied with being good at some things and average at most other things. It's all a matter of personal taste and priority.
My take here is that when there are many people, it is always better to be very good at something (positive) so that one's usefulness increases. But don't let that happen at personal expense of developing a balanced mind and a good heart.
For these are the basic objectives of ALL lives......
[ Last edited by markwu at 2007-8-6 10:10 PM ]