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Post time 2006-10-19 21:51:11 |Display all floors

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Oh, har har. If each couple gives birth to two children naturally, they are not increasing the world's population. More than two (as it's more than enough to replace the parents) increases it. If a couple still wants children but feels conscious of this fact, why not adopt? There are children abandoned and put up for adoption every day all over the world; why not give them a second chance at a good life?

PS--If the US is getting crowded at 300 million, how is China doing at 1.3 billion, I wonder?

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Post time 2006-10-26 06:28:26 |Display all floors
Rich man, Poor man

Like I say earlier, children are precious to all parents who would not give them away easily except in very extreme circumstances, which we often associate with poverty.

So far in the articles on Madonna's adoption, it was reported that that the boy’s father approved of the adoption and “was happy” about it.  

However, there is a twist to the event.  Now the father is saying that he thought the adoption was “temporary” and the singer was doing a good deed as “temporary” carer?

Well, there are no free lunches in this world, would anyone do that ? It is not surprising how some would defend the rich wanting to adopt a child as “helping” the poor, saving the poor boy who will die if not for … and even doing the world good by choosing adoption to control world’s population (stupid ! but “cute”).

Don’t be naïve.  Rich people are not really that “kind” or they wouldn’t be so rich, would they?


By Steve Bloomfield, Africa Correspondent, in Lilongwe, Malawi
Published: 23 October 2006

Madonna's attempts to adopt an African baby were thrown into chaos yesterday after the boy's father said he thought his son would return to live with him in Malawi when he is older.

Thirteen-month-old David Banda arrived in Britain last week after Madonna and her husband, Guy Ritchie, visited the southern African country and signed papers granting them temporary adoption rights.

But the boy's father, Yohane Banda, 32, said Malawian government officials told him that David would be cared for by the millionaire singer until he was old enough to come home and work on the small family farm.

"What we agreed with Madonna was that she looks after my child until he finishes school, becomes independent and comes back home to us," he said. "Had they told us that Madonna wanted to adopt my son and make him her own son, we would not have agreed to that."


His cousin, Wiseman Zimba, added: "Our understanding as a family is that David is still part and parcel of our clan. After the good woman nurtures and educates him, he will return back."

Mr Banda spends most of his days tending to his tomatoes and onions in the village of Lipunga 110km west of the Malawian capital, Lilongwe. He decided to place David in an orphanage after his wife died of malaria shortly after giving birth.

Both their previous sons had died young - Garnet at the age of two, Babel at 18 months. One in five of all Malawian children does not make it to the age of five.

In taking David to the Home of Hope orphanage, a dilapidated series of five dormitories 30km away from Lipunga, Mr Banda hoped to provide his son with the nutrition and medical care he was unable to provide.

When Madonna picked David out from a pre-selected group of 12 "contenders", Mr Banda signed papers agreeing to the adoption and gave a series of interviews proclaiming himself happy that David would lead a better life.

But yesterday he said he had not read the adoption papers himself - instead, Malawian government officials had read them out to him. "I cannot read and write so I relied on what the officials told me - that the papers said Madonna would look after the child the way the orphanage planned to educate him and then he comes back to me."

Madonna's decision to adopt a Malawian child has angered some of the country's human rights groups. A coalition of 67 organisations will this week argue in court that Malawi's adoption laws have been flouted. Foreigners must be resident in Malawi for 18 months before they are allowed to adopt.

Mr Banda had previously criticised the human rights groups for interfering in David's adoption but it is unclear if he will support the case now he is aware that David will become part of Madonna's family.

The adoption papers which Mr Banda signed are still in the hands of government officials. While he does not want David to return to the orphanage, Mr Banda said he would wait until he saw the papers he signed before he makes any decision on his son's future.

There are more than a million orphans in Malawi - about one in five of all children. The country's orphanages are full to capacity and Aids, which claims the lives of tens of thousands of Malawians every year, is leaving thousands more children without parents.



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Post time 2006-10-26 06:33:25 |Display all floors
Singer’s (clever) defence …. before the media …


Tearful Madonna defends adoption
By Sherna Noah, PA
Published: 25 October 2006

Madonna fought back tears as she hit back at critics of her decision to adopt a 13-month-old African boy.

The star spoke out in a TV interview with Oprah Winfrey, which is being broadcast in the US today.

Audience members said Madonna told the chat show host that she plans to take David Banda back to Malawi once or twice a year and wants him to become a spokesman for the country.

Madonna said David's father knew that he was signing away his son permanently, despite his recent comments that he thought she was looking after him temporarily.

Brook Carter, from Miami, who was in the audience, told People magazine that the singer said of Mr Banda: "He looked at me straight in the eye and said 'I'm thankful for giving my son a future and a life because if he stayed with me I would have buried him'."


Audience member Sheryl Lewis said the star said she had acted according to the law.

The emotional singer said she could not understand why she was being criticised for wanting to do good and she hoped others were not discouraged from doing the same.

Madonna was originally set to appear on the show to publicise her new children's book, The English Roses: Too Good To Be True.

Dates with other US talk shows are set for coming days in what is sure to become a major PR offensive for the multimillionaire star.

She has been stung by criticism that she has bypassed Malawi law to "buy" a baby by offering two million dollars (£1.1 million) to help orphans in the impoverished African country.

The adoption saga took a new twist when David's father, Yohane Banda, said he only agreed to let Madonna take the little boy on the assurance from government officials that Madonna would be a temporary carer.

But Mr Banda, 32, a peasant farmer, told Time magazine that he would not fight the adoption because his son would have a better life with the star.

He said: "I don't want my child who is already gone to come back. I will be killing his future if I accept that."

But he was adamant that he had not understood what was happening when he agreed to the process.

"It is true that I was not told properly that my child will be taken for good," he told the magazine.

"You know, I am not educated so the way I was told, I thought it would be the same as keeping him at the orphanage, the only difference being that he will be kept by a rich, respectable lady and in America, which is far away.

"I never understood it as my child being taken for good."


Mr Banda gave David up to an orphanage at five weeks because he was unable to care for him when the baby's mother died shortly after his birth.

Later this week, a coalition of human rights groups will ask a judge in Malawi to review the case, claiming that the country's laws prevent international adoption, even by celebrities.


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Post time 2006-10-26 06:39:01 |Display all floors
How could the father not know?

Madonna’s defence –

Madonna said David's father knew that he was signing away his son permanently, despite his recent comments that he thought she was looking after him temporarily.

Brook Carter, from Miami, who was in the audience, told People magazine that the singer said of Mr Banda: "He looked at me straight in the eye and said 'I'm thankful for giving my son a future and a life because if he stayed with me I would have buried him'."


I guess the question here is not so much as "He (the boy’s father) looked at me straight in the eye and said ….”

The question is how much was the father paid to give up his son?

How much of what Madonna paid for the boy actually goes to the boy’s father?

Does she (Madonna) not know?  Is it possible (that she does not know)?  Or perhaps, it does not matter to her.

The adoption process is controversial from the start (not only because of its speed and ease) with the possibility of the laws being flouted, and children’s rights group (criticised by many) was right to protest and question the whole process.


HOW MUCH was the boy’s father paid?


Not so simple, isn’t it?

It happens all the time to poor and uneducated people who often fall victim to unscruple this way.  They are the most pitiable and often defenceless.

Let’s hope that there is lesson learned from here and people are alerted to it and not think too simply and superficially.

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