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Post time 2006-5-24 10:59:02 |Display all floors
Originally posted by blkazngirl at 23-5-2006 03:32

I have to agree with Auchengyu.  It doesn't matter if you are married or living together.  If you are meant to be together it will work.  

In America, most people live together.  I don't r ...



yep :)

well hidenseek , you experienced  broken home, broken up of several times.
that cause you to not believe marriage and love etc...
SO especially YOU should know that marriage doesn stands for future!!
YOU should know that a wrong marriage = a painful divorce!

My meaning of LIVING TOGETHER is NOT kids, marriage!!
It is A TEST before marriage and before having kids!!
this ALL to PREVENT divorces which YOU experienced!!

regarding Hyper. there is not really men do not LOSE and girl LOSE.
in this world, its already EQUAL. if women lose something, we lose also.
nowadays, virgins are very rare. that means sex is a normal thing already.
do you think a women will like a man which had 5 ladies in bed before? they WILL also think: ow what a player or pervert...  its the same for women AND men.

as you said before: REAL love is to accept all. also the past! no matter your gf or bf had 2, 3 partners before, real love won't care. some men CARE, SO DO women.
Women can lose their 'virginity' , so do men.  
women can be cheap, also men.  if you think when women are cheap when they had sex with some men, is this not MASCULANISM or discrimination?
Holland is not japan (a MAN-country..)
you as Dutch Chinese should totally understand western concepts, that living together and sex before marriage is not 'as BAD' as you think, and has its very good things.


at the end what I said LIVING together is not just SEX, that's a different topic which was made before.
living together is, different than having dates etc. its a TEST whether 2 characters fits, whether both can LIVE together without fights, misunderstandings , = without big chance for divorce!!

[ Last edited by auchengyu at 2006-5-24 11:38 AM ]

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Post time 2006-5-24 15:11:21 |Display all floors

do as you think

the test before your marriage.
to test the love
brave

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Post time 2006-5-24 19:02:33 |Display all floors
Originally posted by auchengyu at 2006-5-24 10:59



yep :)

well hidenseek , you experienced  broken home, broken up of several times.
that cause you to not believe marriage and love etc...
SO especially YOU should know that marriag ...


we, men, cannot deny that we prefer a girl who has not a lot of partners in the past....
ofcouse, we have to accept... thats love...
but we cannot deny, so do girls..........

and ofcourse living together is more than only ***, but we cannot deny that we have no *** when we live together..... nobody will believe this
一心一意,一生一世

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Post time 2006-5-25 09:36:41 |Display all floors
Originally posted by hyperactive at 24-5-2006 19:02


we, men, cannot deny that we prefer a girl who has not a lot of partners in the past....
ofcouse, we have to accept... thats love...
but we cannot deny, so do girls..........

and ofcourse  ...


yepyep. agreed.
people are 矛盾

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Post time 2006-5-25 09:53:22 |Display all floors

Reply #22 auchengyu's post

So you prefer the western tests to the chinese tests.

Then what is the chinese test to ensure "no divorce"?
What's on your mind now........ooooooooooooooo la la....Kind Regards

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Post time 2006-5-25 10:11:44 |Display all floors

what the hell???

if the roles could be reversed for a change .... i wish we lived in a society where girls could be free to sleep around and men had to be virgins.
when a girl could say to a guy "you re a dirty man you had many girlfriends before me"
  ha this would be such great fun.....!!!!!

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Post time 2006-5-25 10:13:02 |Display all floors
well not actually western or chinese test.
its the 'unviversal test' for 2 people in a relationship.
You won't know eachother toroughly until you experienced a lot things with eachother ( especially the sad times) and living together.

many Chinese also know the advantage and importance of this, but the problem is that many parents here don't allow their children to do so..
= culture difference.. (traditional)..
sure this will change.... young people like us in China are often far modern and sometimes even more modern than western people... its just a matter of time..
when the 2nd generation, the peopel born in 1980's, grow up, over 20, 30 years, everything will be different ....

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