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Again, dude...you're ready and willing to make sweeping statements about ALL Chinese women, yet hey, THAT'S all right. I make a comment about ONE guy, and you get all defensive about that.|
"You sound like one of these jealous, desperate laowai who resents the guys who can pick girls up without a problem, while you have to wine and dine them, facing questions about how much you earn and the like"
Ummmm...dude...it is YOU who said Chinese women are "hard to please". I have no such problem...I have many female Chinese friends, and a very close Chinese girlfriend. How exactly is saying that Chinese women are NOT hard to please an indication that I am somehow "jealous" of other laowai?
And regarding why I said the guy is an @sshole -- I'll elaborate. Chinese women DO, in general, take romantic relationships more seriously than western women do. If a foreign man wants to have a relationship with a Chinese woman, he needs to be sensitive to that -- not just do whatever the hell HE wants, whatever makes HIM feel good, without regard to the girl's situation.
For this girl to be dating a foreigner will cause enough problems. Some people are going to look at her and assume she's just after his money, or something like that. Then he dates her, breaks up with her, dates her, breaks up with her...something that's going to not only cause her a lot of stress, but cause a loss of face with her friends, family, etc.
Then, WITHOUT any sort of commitment to her, no thought about the future (and a high probability that he'll just break up with her again, based on past history), he wants to invite her to go to Ireland with him. For HIM, it may be a casual thing...but for HER to go there is a major commitment. Her family will take it as an indication that her relationship with this guy is quite serious. And more than likely, after she allows herself to like the guy again, he'll just dump her another time.
I'm not saying the guy is INTENTIONALLY hurting her. Just that, like too many foreigners in China, he just keeps thinking and acting the way he would back home. Yeah, this would be 'acceptable' in a western country; but China's not a western country, and he should be thinking MORE about the effect he's having on this girl, and LESS about gratifying his own fleeting desires.
Again, your response IS laughable. You make sweeping (and completely inaccurate) statements about ALL Chinese women, while getting offended about my comments about ONE specific male; and you accuse me of somehow being jealous of how "easy" it is for other men to get Chinese gfs when, in fact, it is YOU who says they are "hard to please".
Please, think a little before responding. You obviously have brain cells...please, try to utilize them.
[ Last edited by canadianguy at 2006-4-4 09:24 PM ]