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"I know a lot of girls who are afraid of dating with Chinese. The question in their head is always: If this relationship gets serious and if we marry; how will he treat me? Will I become the housewive and mother or can I continue my career? After I give birth to his child, will I still be of interest to him, or will he cheat with a younger girl, while I take care of his child? And if he has an affair, will he still want to keep the relationship with me?"|
"These questions many of Chinese women of today ask themselves and they dread the answers. They are forced into roles, which are unbearable for them and they are not willing to accept it. So, they turn to the Westerners, who they think will treat them right, let them escape from their traditional role and who will cherish the relation they have."
I am a Chinese woman, divorced, I felt so bad that I were forced into roles and got lots of pressure - I was always told "you should...." should make a baby, should take good care of kid and husband, should be obedient to my unreasonable ex-mom-in-law who was over jealous of me and not respected and accepted me a family member when I did't follow her "you should...". My ex hus and people around almost have the same view as she does. I also have the same fear that "how will he treat me After I give birth to his child, will I still be of interest to him, or will he cheat with a younger girl, while I take care of his child? And if he has an affair, will he still want to keep the relationship with me?" In that case I didn't want a kid, I only wanted to escape from the traditional role. Only true love should be the good reason for me to have a baby...... I believe most chinese women will feel happy to have a baby and take good care of the baby and her husband if the hus and wife really love each other. She will try best to take good care of that if she is happily married despite that she also has a job as the hus does.
My advice: Chinese girls better not sleep with foreigners here to avoid being "subjugated sisters". Women should always be careful to not be men's outlets to release their "natural desire". I believe in general case a Chinese woman will not make sex with a man if she doesn't love or like that man. However a man could make sex to a woman out of natural desire even if he has no good feelings for her.