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ahh, i see
After I read your last post, I think I understand a little more now about what’s going on. Well, don’t be too hard on him, because what he’s doing is rather natural for us American guys.|
What you described in your last post is the classic “women wants security/commitment up front, while guys are few steps behind.” You are not feeling that way just because you are a Chinese girl, because we drive American girls up the wall with this stuff as well. This is due to the basic differences in what a guy and a girl are looking for when they start a relationship.
I don’t go into the reasons behind why guys are slow in making commitments. But, in my personal opinion, if he hasn’t been with you for very long, unsure about his own future in China, having a relationship with a foreign girl, then his hesitance is rather normal. And being in a foreign land, among foreign men, and feeling he’s not living up to your expectations, might be the reason why he’s insecure and called you dishonest.
And your frustration is very understandable as well. But I have to caution you on something: don’t expect/press for too much, especially not early on. I don’t know how long you two have been seeing each other, but if a girl (any girl, Chinese or American) tells me that she wants a life-long relationship before we dated more than 3 months, you’ll see how fast I can run the other way. That’s just scary. No offense. Please don’t rush it.
I’m sorry that I can’t give you something more specific. But as long as you remember to protect yourself, you should be ok in the end, regardless how it turns out. Don't lose hope. Good luck. ^_^