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Post time 2005-1-4 12:53:26 |Display all floors
nowaday, people all around the world get connect with each other more and more , so  miced marriage become a trendcy in spite of race ,education background as family disapproval ~~what's your opinion about it ?does it easy for foreigners get together and live a happy life ?or what's abstacles they must to overcome ?
   and will you have such a decision ?
    thanks for your opinion!

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Post time 2005-1-4 13:21:25 |Display all floors

Mixing blood has gon on for thousands of years.

It's choice. I never question "why" but accept their choices. Many mixed marraiges fail because one or the the other or both are not willing to accept the other's culture. Language is important. If they both do not each other's language then the effort to succeed is not there. Language and culture are tied and you can not have one without the other. There are many people bias against mixed marraige but the couple must overcome their own bias to accept each other as they are and not try to change each other.
   The same problems exist as same race couples have but the added difficulties can destroy the love they have for each other. Each has to be patient and willing to understand and accept the differences. Most men are not willing to learn the language, culture and traditions which are important to his foreign wife. From what I have seen the wife is often frustrated in his refusal to learn and she becomes very unhappy and locked in a marraige she regrets.  On an occaision the wife will not have the desire to learn the language and culture but generally it is the husband.
   If the couple can adapt to each other, the problems are no more than same race couples. That is the key to success. Adapting, accepting, learning and sharing.

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Post time 2005-1-4 13:31:39 |Display all floors

but more questions

thanks for message !
     but I think language is just a part of the  setbacks .how about the bias of the family of each partner ?if the parents disapproval ?
    and will it have financial problems ?and how to education their children maybe a big problem as people have diffrent education background ?

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Post time 2005-1-4 15:19:28 |Display all floors

I support it

Mixing marriage will be success if  the lovers can receive their lovers from different culture, different attitude of their parents,  the defects and merits  and so on .

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Post time 2005-1-5 21:27:36 |Display all floors

Hi

I am from the UK and have a Chinese girlfriend (who lives in China) and I am going to China to live and be with her at some point this year. She speaks English and I am learning Chinese.

We both know that their are obvious cultural hurdles which we both must overcome in our relationship, however, these are just in addition to the hurdles that we must overcome as a couple in general. As with all such challenges they can be overcome with good communication, understanding and compromise.

It is also important that neither of the couple try and impose their own culture on their partner just because it seems right to them (no matter how illogical it seems). Though I do not think either should sacrifice their own moral code either, it抯 at times of conflict that this is most hard to resolve.

Embrace the differences and be open minded is the best advice I have

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Post time 2005-1-6 16:46:35 |Display all floors

i support mixed marriage

mixed marriage can develop well in the globalization nowadays. although there are two diffenent cultures, them still introject each other as long as both of them comprehend the other.

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Post time 2005-1-6 19:12:02 |Display all floors

Without true love, any marrige would be all disgusting!!!

Esp. for the inter-state marriage between low-heart Chinese girl and seducing Western white !

It's really funny. Whoever support cons or pros, ludicrously each side only wanna fit on his own shoes and don’t pay more care with others’ background and value! As a Chinese guy, I can tell what some Chinese girls humiliate for themselves! Making advances to whites at all costs, even with acting like a dirty-cheap slut, really sucks! What they did disgraced everything and everyone they ever owned!

I’d like to admit, every ppl has his right to choose the way going life and making living, but tho, please let be for your motherland and compatriots! Keep head to think it over, for such a white of a poor apology, for such a crap shot to go aboard, for such vain luxury, to pay whole life, even human dignity, is that a bit worth?

In the internet, there’re mega of pictures to show the sino-international marriage, many of which are made up by young chinese girl and old western nitwit. Suppose a yellow-skin, black-eye and blond-dyed young chinese girl like a showoff takes the arm of an ugly exotic dirty-old white in the noisy Manhattan street (or in the stinky and gross bed)!!! Anyone who did that must have a few buttons missing. All the better, the out-of-date Chinese female singer Wei Wei set a GOOD example for us, after the love-at-the-first-sight and honeymoony marriage had been on the rocks, she went to got divorce with her old and poor Swedish “Mr. Right” in recent days!!!

Some whites would like to say, "Oh, crap! It's sheer a lie, because my chinese girl and I got along very well for quite a long time!---"  Is the  seeing truth exactly real for sure, every bit like he said???  Oh, no, gimme a break, okay? It's really nil and nothing that a couple appear to be amiable and smiling on the surface, with the affectional gaps having existed! If not true, but why that kind of chinese girl didn't show her blue face with her white hb or bf all the day? It’s so weird? Absolutely not!

This phenomenon would be originated from the culture difference between Oriental and Western. As a rule, western women were brought up to go for and then insist on their right and priority, even the feminist privilege, while keeping silent suffering any unfair and mistreat is supposed to be incredibly stupid. But, meanwhile, their peers in China didn’t do so. Chinese female are born to be as doormat ( sorry, a bit harsh here), when following his hb like a sheep is regarded as a chinese traditional virtue!

The aforesaid phenomenon could also explain why the western country always like to finger at the problem of human right of China: what we take for granted is prejudiciously judged as inconceivability and abnormality! How silly!!!

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