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...based on what you say, that you may have more of a bisexual orientation.|
You refer to past relationships with men, where you were hurt. I assume, then, that at SOME point you WERE attracted to men, and that it is at least partly because of bad experiences that you are no longer attracted to them?
If that's the case, then it sounds to me like initially, given typical Chinese cultural prohibitions against lesbianism, that you never really thought about or considered relationships with women; you focussed on me.
When you were hurt, and no longer interested in men, you then started to look more seriously at women, and consider them.
If that is the case (and I really can't know for sure, given my lack of knowledge of your specific circumstances), then I'd suggest that you are more likely bisexual, not lesbian. And that your emotional reaction towards men in general has caused you to focus more on the female attraction, since you no longer consider men to be an option.
IF you NEVER felt any attraction for men, that's fine...its a likely indication that you were always lesbian, and you should not worry about lack of attraction to men. If, on the other hand, you once felt attraction for men, but no longer do, I'd suggest that this is more of an emotional issue, and while it isn't wrong to pursue a relationship with a woman, I'd encourage you ALSO not to write all men off...there ARE good men out there (and there are WOMEN who can hurt you just as much).
Saying "I'm not attracted to men" is no problem; each person has their own preferences.
But saying "I don't trust all men", or something like that, is a problem. It is no different from saying "I hate all blacks", or "All Chinese are evil". You are judging ALL men according to your experience with a few men. And I'd encourage you to face that problem in a positive manner, and to find men whom you can trust. I'm not saying you should have SEX with them; but don't throw away every guy on the planet because of a bad experience with a few.