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A Western guy's viewpoint
I met a Chinese girl from Guangzhou over the internet back in August of this year. The exchange began on a "low-key" basis, sharing information, cultural exhange, similar to pen-pal. Slowly, it has grown into much more. In the beginning she mentioned an interest in coming to the U.S. someday but was not adamant about it. I told her I was interested in coming to China, possibly to teach English as a second foreign language. She encouraged this and I was pleased with her encouragement.|
Over the months, we have fallen in love to the point where it seems as though it is destiny that we are to be together. Mere words can do no justice to the the feeling we share for each other. Neither of us has rushed blindly into this and I strongly believe that there is no "hidden agenda." By that, I mean that I am convinced that she is not using me as a conduit to the West. When I asked her (Xiu Zhu) of her continued interest in the U.S. her words were "Where is my love, so shall I be also." That was enough for me. :)
So, I will arrive in Guangzhou on November 18 and already have a job. My plans for staying in China are indefinite and undefined. I may stay for a long while or may leave after one year's time. Regardless, my girlfriend and I will spend much time together getting to know one another and her family. She speaks some English, I speak some Cantonese. We will help each other to learn our languages more optimally.
I have lived in Southeast Asia in the past, therefore the Eastern ways will not represent a culture shock for me. In fact, I truly have always preferred the ways of the East over the West in most all respects. Especially the people. And especially the people of China. I realize China is changing but it took many thousands of years for the Chinese to become very human, very special. They will not become "Westernized" over night. That is a good thing.
I'm certain there are women in China who would like to live in U.S. and may be willing to develop a plan not based on love to get there. And there are Western men who come to China for a "trophy bride." This phenomenon exists in many other countries. I have absolutely no use for that type of arrangement. That is not my plan, nor the plan of my hopeful Tai-Tai-to-be. Happiness, contentment and love are the basis for our ties.
After arriving in and adjusting to Guangzhou, I will continue my updates here at CD, if anyone is interested. My discussions will be unbiased and that of an observer and information-provider. Hopefully this will help others to see that there is a light of hope and at least some instances of multi-cultural relationships built on true love and wisdom, rather than economics, deceit and materialistic ideologies.
Those ideologies are the primary reason that I have wished to "wash my hands" of the West for many years. Now I feel I will be where I belong.