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This post was edited by messenger77 at 2014-10-29 22:38|
Well, I agree here that you don't tell a woman she looks old, but to me, it's got nothing to do with respect but just being considerate of another's feelings.
Perhaps indirect communication is better than direct communication--I don't know, I'm confused. Because when my Asian professor used to tell me things indirectly, it really upset me, and I thought to myself, why doesn't he have the courage to talk to me directly?
In Asia I have met polite people who would keep silence rather than tell you no, so you can deduce from a minute or so of silence that they mean no. It is a nice feeling. But I still think people should have the courage to talk to you, and say sorry if they want to say no, I guess.
Would you prefer to be "respected" and kept in the dark, rather than have someone "embarrass" you but then at least you learn the truth. I know that I would prefer to know the truth, but perhaps I am in the minority. The problem with indirect communication is that it is time-consuming, and you are unable to frankly discuss the situation with each other.
And the other option, ignoring...this is even worse. Ignored problems do not disappear.