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pnp Post time: 2015-7-31 15:38
The Chinese would lie to save face for themselves and their friends. They will never tell their frie ...
It's not true that Chinese people understand each other's indirect messages all the time. For example, someone some time ago just complained that her boss kept her waiting when she asked for a promotion. Her boss seems to be leading her to believe that she will get a promotion soon, but she said she's been waiting years, and she doesn't know what's on her boss' mind.
It is not good when you can't be honest even with your close friends just to "save face." I'll give you an example. These are close friends. Friend A orders an expensive drink CC for Friend B. Drink comes. Friend B tastes it, dislikes it, but because Friend A ordered it, Friend B must say it's nice. Meanwhile Friend C is looking to order a drink, since Friend B says drink CC tastes good, she orders the same drink. Drink comes, it's gross, but can't complain, because Friend A will lose face. So, instead of spending money on what could have been a nicer drink, Friend C had to drink something gross. Was it worth it? The psychological burden is high and hidden. Wouldn't this be better: Okay, Friend A doesn't mind being told the drink is gross because she is a strong person and she can handle criticism.
This is why Asian societies can't progress as they should, considering Asians are not stupid. But so much needless time, energy, money, is wasted on things that don't matter....progress never comes, because no one dares to criticize...The loudest, the most violent, the most aggressive, the most fearful, but not the smartest (because a smart person is not violent), will lead. But everyone suffers for it, in the end. In my example, which was based on real-life by the way, Friend A was the most aggressive.
People live among others similar to them...Usually you are where you are, because you believe in what your society believes. ...Like attracts like.