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  • Chinese marriage, family still first 2014-9-14 17:52

    seneca: Love is, as the Communists decreed, a "bourgeois" thing - not worthy of communist subjects. It is good to know that Communism in China has m ...
    I think those who cheat are not necessarily the moneybags. Those who involve in an extramarital affair may also be the ordinary people. Monogamy is actually imported goods for Chinese because we had a long history of polygamy as routine even for the dirt poor people who marry the child bribe. Some criticize that polygamy is the nature of Chinese males as they would rather choose to have mistresses than have a legitimate divorce. Love the new and loathe the old is actually the nature of humankind even for women the most advocates of monogamy. And that's why we need a marriage out of both love and utilitarianism. Love is delicate flower requiring fertile soil. The beauty of flower and stability of ground make a happy marriage.

  • Chinese marriage, family still first 2014-9-12 13:27

    Love is, as the Communists decreed, a "bourgeois" thing - not worthy of communist subjects. It is good to know that Communism in China has made women more equal with men in that a man can now only marry one. But marriages contracted out of pure love are the West's ideal, and such ideals spread easily in societies so inexperienced in romance as the Chinese. It is typically the women who wish to be seen in a white bridesgown and to do their ceremony in a church; Chinese males are absolutely passive and oblige without much enthusiasm, but oblige they often do.

    Neither marriages out of love nor the utilitarian marriages of convenience favoured by the Chinese hold the promise of everlasting bliss: we in the West divorce too frequently, and in China, the wealthy men almost invariably maintain mistresses and second wives as if polygamy had never been abolished. They may not divorce - but then they cheat, and often they cheat with their legitimate wife's tacit acknowledgement. Once the woman is past her child-bearing age she will not want to be alone and on her own, and the man might not wish to lose face.

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