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Getting away with it!

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The phrase in the title means - someone did not face a consequence of their action or did not get a justified punishment for their wrong doing or crime.The phrase usually brings up in the mind a feeling that someone got away with something they should not have. It usually has a negative connotation to it. It implies justice has not been served or that injustice won.

Look around you and observe. We constantly, regularly or frequently see people getting away with it.
- Politicians get away with lying, cheating, corruption or misusing public funds. Some get away with '.crimes against humanity'
- Some people or celebrities get away with killing, fraud or other serious crimes.

Often we are all helpless to do anything about those. We, however, resent this when we hear of them. We feel powerless and then let go and console ourselves. In our own way and in our little sphere of influence in the world, sometimes we resolve NOT to let people get away with it.

So, we write letters to the editor in a newspaper, or blog here on CD or get into a rage when someone cuts us off in traffic, cuts ahead of us in the queue or insults us or our friends in bar. We want to take a stand and 'not let them get away with it'. However, we do realise we cannot keep doing this for every little injustice we come across. So, we say - "Pick and choose your battles. Look at what is really important to you. Prioritise!"

In Indian culture there is a catch-all term to deal with all the injustice that we really cannot deal with ourselves. People know it as 'Karma'! It is supposed to put the burden on the ultimate cause of the Universe to deal with all the things that people 'get away with', with a stated firm faith in the laws of action and reaction. The All-Knowing God is supposed to deal with things on your behalf.

One can well imagine that God muttering to himself - "Look, I gave you life, some energy, power, mind and brains so that you create a better and just world for yourself. As far as I am concerned, that IS the purpose of your life - to work to create a better world. Sure, I can see that you cannot deal with every single issue and it ultimately comes to me, but surely you can make an effort. You can deal with a few more of the issues by yourself, using all that has been provided for you. That actually is my purpose for giving you life and supposedly 'intelligence'."

Of those that 'get away with it', some set out to deliberately do so, have a try to do so and are willful in doing wrong. Some are ignorant, unaware of the wrong they are doing. One requires a combination of different approaches to dealing with each situation.

Some 'get away with it' because they are simply lucky - the other party barely has a chance or time to figure out what is wrong and reacting before it is all over. Sometimes, the aggrieved party has no power, clout, time, resources or energy to deal with it. Or there are more important issues calling for their attention. Or, they might feel timid and afraid of confrontation or taking a stand as that is their personality.They choose to let go. We can often see 'intelligent/cunning' perpetrators count on these very issues or traits in a person to take advantage of and get away with it. People often use stereotypes of other's nationalities, religion, ethnicity, gender or economic situation to exploit or to be wary of.

Typical examples of such stereo types would be
- Americans are aggressive, rich and not care about money
- Muslims would be hot-headed and become violent
- Indians would be timid
- Chinese would be quiet and forbearing
- Poor immigrants would not complain about insults because they should just be thankful to have a place to live and exist - forget about self-respect or dignity!

Often when a person does not fit into the stereotype, people are in for a surprise!

Preventing someone from 'getting away with it' requires the following
- an awareness of exactly what is that you feel they should NOT be 'getting away with'.
- a willingness to confront the person - to put forth the issue clearly and to 'take a stand' against them.
- the ability, attitude and resources to follow through upon taking a stand.

People from different cultures and countries, different socioeconomic situations, of varying age-groups, gender and personal circumstances will have varying capabilities, attitudes or actual responses to a given particular situation of injustice.

Some will respond more strongly to economic injustice, some to personal space, some to a sense of honour, some to chivalry. Some will also 'let some get away with it' in these very areas. Some do it out of timidity, and some out of other reasons. It is interesting and worth observing people from various backgrounds respond to the same type of situation, even here on CD.

What do you observe?

IMO, There is no one single rule to be followed always - sometimes one has to let people get away with it and sometimes not. Of course, it is that very choice of what we let people get away with and what NOT, that determines others' perception of us and our situation. It is true even for organisations, not just people. Our perception of CD is determined by what we see people get away with and what they do not.

What do you think?

Of course, we cannot be running ragged, chasing every minute instance of real or perceived injustice. There is 'Karma', after all!

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)


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Reply Report Dr.Bill.Shen 2015-12-23 17:21
agree. we have to leave many things to karma. however, sometimes you have a feeeling that karma has overlooked a lot of things as well. maybe leave things to karma of karma. nevertheless, i do believe that you might get away today, but sooner or later you will be caught and punished by the invisible karma.
Reply Report KIyer 2015-12-23 17:29
Dr.Bill.Shen: agree. we have to leave many things to karma. however, sometimes you have a feeeling that karma has overlooked a lot of things as well. maybe leave th ...
Yes I too feel that we do not see complete effect of Karma in one lifetime.
Reply Report snowipine 2015-12-23 20:27
Due to sudden power failure my comments flied away.

Now I try once again via phone to say something in my knowledge.

I don't believe here exists the phenomena of karma in real life, but I do think that the final output of any behavior advanced or backward is the synthetics of several conditions.

Facing with the colorful world, sorting out what we are most concerning and relevant things, meantime let sth as it is or let it go, maybe is the most difficult things to do.

A pleasant life environment needs time, vigilance and abilities to maintenance, in my opinion.
Reply Report Newtown 2015-12-23 23:37
Was it karma that allowed people to "get away with" illegally dumping building waste on that mountain of trash in Shenzhen which subsequently collapsed, causing huge loss of life ?
Reply Report AndrewCraven 2015-12-24 00:11
yes, get away with all the stereotypes, embrace new ideas, you will see a different world!  By the way I think the regulation and public order are the more effective ways rather than karma.
Reply Report KIyer 2015-12-24 03:11
snowipine: Due to sudden power failure my comments flied away.

Now I try once again via phone to say something in my knowledge.

I don't believe here exists the ...
You write "the final output of any behavior advanced or backward is the synthetics of several conditions."
That is what is called karma.  It depends on many reactions to many actions that are complex.  It is believed to make things equitable and fair in the long term.
Reply Report Dr.Bill.Shen 2015-12-24 12:47
Newtown: Was it karma that allowed people to "get away with" illegally dumping building waste on that mountain of trash in Shenzhen which subsequentl ...
agree. a nice way to put it. i am confident that those responsible for the huge loss of life will be punished.
Reply Report voice_cd 2015-12-28 10:41
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Reply Report KIyer 2015-12-28 14:17
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Reply Report HailChina! 2015-12-29 05:20
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The completely wicked (a man who did nothing good in his life) cannot correct their sins in this world or in the other, and hence do not suffer for them here, but in genihom (hell). The very evil do not repent even at the gates of hell. Such people prosper in this world to receive their reward for any good deed, but cannot be cleansed by and hence cannot leave gehinom, because they don't or can't repent. This world can therefore seem unjust where the righteous suffer, while the wicked prosper. Many great thinkers have contemplated this, but God's justice is long, precise and just.
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That is the best way to look at it in my opinion. Gods justice is long, precise and just. The world does seem unfair because many good people suffer and many bad people prosper but God does work in mysterious ways. And his justice is long, precise and just.

I like the idea of Karma in Shintoism the best - where past lives determine Karma in present life. It is more like Christianity.

edit- And Im happy that you stuck with the forum. And that you havent blocked my comments.

I do not like the idea of people taking comfort or joy in the concept of Karma - where they hope that bad things will happen to people that have committed an evil deed. We should try to help each other because none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes - and that is why I like the idea in Christianity that if you sin you can confess/repent and then God will forgive us. We all sin.

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