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Post time 2008-7-13 10:59:52 |Display all floors


Today, I read in the newspapers that a MAN WAS RAPED ....


by another man.


The victim is a grown man, past 40 years of age.

The case, circumstance and scene of rape are very similar to those of a rape involving a woman.

He was travelling overseas on holiday.  His drink was spiked, lost consciousness and he was then raped.  He did not report the rape immediately (men being men ... macho, I guess).  A few months later, he discovered that he had contracted AIDS.

With regrets!


Look what a terrible society we are now living in.


No MAN is spared from sexual violence, whatever your gender group.


I am sharing this and hope that young men and boys (Chinese, in particular) don't be naive and think you are safe as guys from sexual assaults and abuse.


Girls, of course, we know how they need to be protected.  Boys and guys too should to be protected and be aware of such assaults that can happen to you.



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Post time 2008-7-13 11:13:11 |Display all floors
Originally posted by whampoa at 2008-7-13 10:59


Today, I read in the newspapers that a MAN WAS RAPED ....


by another man.


The victim is a grown man, past 40 years of age.

The case, circumstance and scene of rape ar ...


i have been drugged in a similar fashion and dragged downstairs through a private lounge and into a private bathroom... and put in a stall.. all of which i was somehow aware of... but i am iron.. the drug couldnt over power my own brain and my own willpower and i could see and hear 2 men talking about if they should try something with me...

i kicked the door and they ran away, i couldnt immediately stand up but a few minutes later i was able to escape the club and get to a taxi, I shouted at the taxi driver calling him a terrorist (this was in Chicago, just after 9-11) and i kind of passed out again ( i had only 1 drink that night) and awoke to find myself in the middle of deserted farmland with 3 very angry terrorist-looking guys surrounding me... from 3 different taxis just parked in a dark and deserted road...  standing over me with the taxi-door open... i had to apologize and try to convince them not to kill me and just take me home

that drug is a serious drug...

now i can clearly remember the whole thing.. I was dancing with the DJ's gf, and the girl kept looking at the DJ and the DJ looked insanely jealous...

the DJ then made a signal to the bartender, which i clearly recall now.. and the stupid girl behind the bar gave me a drugged drink... i dont clearly remember any of their faces though... not enough to go back with police, or even a crowbar..

its something like amnesia.. you just cant quite get past the physical trauma or damage to your brain caused by the drug to see the moment clearly, or clearly remember the details like you would normally be able to

and it seems to me they have probably done that same thing before, with the girl getting the bf jealous, or even choosing the one they will drug for them....

and it also seems to me that ALOT more people were aware of what was going on.. maybe MOST if not ALL of the workers and regulars there

so point is...

dont drink.. ever..

or at least not alone.. ever...

i suggest bringing at least 3 or 4 people with you all the time.. so u can stay  in teams if u have to buy drinks or go to the wc..

and never let anyone go off alone

[ Last edited by justbabygirl at 2008-7-13 11:41 AM ]

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Post time 2008-7-13 11:44:10 |Display all floors
Originally posted by justbabygirl at 2008-7-13 11:13


i have been drugged in a similar fashion and dragged downstairs through a private lounge and into a private bathroom... and put me in a stall.. all of which i was pretty aware of... but i am ir ...


so point is...

dont drink.. ever..

or at least not alone.. ever...

i suggest bringing at least 3 or 4 people with you all the time..



Thanks, justbabygirl, for sharing your experience.

So, you're a guy?

Thank goodness, they didn't do anything terrible to you.

Yes, we've heard of guys being beaten up and robbed for whatever reasons ..... but "raped" ?  It's quite unheard of, to me unless the rape victims (men) never reported.  Even for a woman to report rape, it is a traumatic experience.

A tourist guide once told me his experience (he is a Ukrainian and was touring in a European country).  He was surrounded some big guys who (apparently drug addicts) were trying to rob him.  He was only 18-19 years old at that time.  Luckily he saw an opportunity to escape and he did.  He was unharmed.

*****

Justbabygirl's advice (Red) is good and should be taken heed of.


IMPORTANT thing is DON'T BE TOO TRUSTING, not especially when you are overseas and in unfamiliar places, alone.


Yesterday, I had Korean food for lunch.  It was my old work place and I used to patronise the restaurant when I was working in the vicinity.  As it was a Saturday yesterday, the place and the restaurant were quiet and did not have the usual lunch crowd of a weekday.

The restaurant is a family restaurant operated by the husband and wife.  I saw only the husband and he served me a glass of green tea before my food was served.  I was the only customer there.  The husband and wife were a friendly couple and I used to have brief exchanges in simple English with them when I lunched there.  Yesterday, I did not take the drink.  I only ate the food served by the assistant (a lady).

I didn't suspect anything but I just won't take the drink.


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[ Last edited by whampoa at 2008-7-13 11:47 AM ]
When asked what they least admired about the West, they replied
MORAL DECAY, PROMISCUITY and pornography which...
DEGRADED women.

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Post time 2008-7-13 12:08:02 |Display all floors
I started a thread with the same title also in Free Talk.

I just found out that it has been removed.

I had hoped to broaden the readership and viewership so that it can bring greater awareness to forumites on things and happenings that we thought would never happen.

Unfortunately, it seems like the system does not permit duplicate posting.




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Whampoa
When asked what they least admired about the West, they replied
MORAL DECAY, PROMISCUITY and pornography which...
DEGRADED women.

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Post time 2008-7-13 13:31:45 |Display all floors
Originally posted by justbabygirl at 2008-7-13 11:13


i have been drugged in a similar fashion and dragged downstairs through a private lounge and into a private bathroom... and put in a stall.. all of which i was somehow aware of... but i am iron ...



is this true happened on you? can't believe this

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Post time 2008-7-13 13:34:36 |Display all floors
Originally posted by whampoa at 2008-7-13 11:44



Thanks, justbabygirl, for sharing your experience.

So, you're a guy?

Thank goodness, they didn't do anything terrible to you.

Yes, we've heard of guys being beaten up a ...



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Post time 2008-7-13 13:35:38 |Display all floors
Originally posted by seneca at 2008-7-13 12:45
It will take more years before such incidents can be reported from inside China; tell a Chinese a woman tried to rape a man - they will laugh you off.

But it does happen.



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