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I have heard from other Chinese exactly what you say about Americans. I just cannot figure out where they get this idea. It is true that our divorce rate is around 50%, but I don't know any single person who ever talked about getting divorced later on. It's just that it's much easier for women to have a career and make good money here, which means they don't have to stay in a bad marriage just to have a place to live and food on the table. Good or bad? Not sure. |
And what's with this crazy notion about nursing homes? My girlfriend said the same thing about us. Where do these ideas come from? My great grandmother died at the age of 100 when I was 16. She died in a nursing home because she refused to move away from Brooklyn, New York. We all lived in New Jersey, and so we'd go visit her. She was very happy there and would have been miserable in NJ away from her friends. My other great grandmother refused to come live with my parents until she was too sick to care for herself, when we forced her to move into our house. Eventually she got too sick for us (non-doctors) to care for her and she went to hospice, where she died a few days later. I've never heard of anyone committing their relatives to a nursing home against their will. But I know of a lot of cases where the old person wants to go to a nursing home to be with others their own age with 24 hr. medical care available. When my grandfather (also too sick for us to care for him at home) went to a nursing home, by chance, his roommate there was a childhood friend he hadn't seen in over 70 years. My grandfather was too senile to know him. But the roommate remebered my grandfather, took care of him and he died (perhaps not knowing if he was happy), but with someone he grew up with. We we all there too.
Why in the world would my parents save money for me? I'm young, well-educated, employed, healthy and make good money. Why would I want to take their money? I really don't understand this one. My parents are rich and don't need anything from me. I'm not at all poor and don't need anything from them. We love each other dearly and have a great relationship, which has NOTHING at all to do with money. What's wrong with that?