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love and responsibility
you two have been together for ten years, but your relationship started to get worse and worse several years ago, i assume. no one knows better than yourself your feelings and the relationship between you two.|
if you know what is wrong, and you still want to keep the relationship, you should make a change of yourself a little. he may have changed from good to better, but you have made little change or have changed to the opposite. just as you said, you don't want to change your character as you are proud. it is the lack of communication and the fear of being rejected that often undermines a good relationship. it is the tolerance and patience that build a good relationship. if you are proud, you can remain single all your life and appreciate yourself, if you want to love a man and share with him the life experience, you will learn to accept him and his life. arrogance and self-centredness are harmful.
love should be refreshed by more efforts to better the two parties involved so that the future family and marriage can be hopeful. love is not to have a family and to have children or to be the same as others...
from your description, you have become dependant on him for everything, and you have lost your identity. you expect him to be responsible for you, for what he has done, for what he has promised.... but you know that he seems to be not prepared for the family, because in his eyes, you can't be a good wife, a good mother...you may be fussy, cross, nitpicking or nagging???
you can try to communicate with him or consult professionals on your problems. or you can travel with him to a different place, or make a change of your life to see if there is some hope.
but if he is determined , you can suggest to be away from him. some distance can give you two some time to think it over. or you can suggest to break up with him to see what his real intention is. if he is happy to break up with you, you should not hate him, as to give him a chance means a chance for you, as well.
just as a poster said, the relationship should be constructive rather than destructive. you should marry for hope, and love not for responsiblity or for your parents' sake or for a long time relationship sake, otherwise, you will lose a good chance to choose a man who wants to have a baby with you and appreciate you.