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PatrickInBeijin Post time: 2015-9-4 12:13
Dear Stranger123, I look forward to lunch! Direct communication is not always so easy if you 1) val ...
Direct western style communication does not lead to conflicts. You have a western username, but you're not a westerner, I'm sure. Otherwise, you wouldn't reach this conclusion.
Direct communication, done respectfully, resolves present conflict and prevent future ones from occurring. I think you mean, direct communication in China may lead to conflict, because Chinese people expect indirect communcation.
But if I say I prefer direct communcation, you don't need to worry about defending me. On the contrary, I find indirect communication very disrespectful, so if you value not offending people like me, you would switch to direct communication, since I'm being clear about what I prefer.
As for, when in Rome do as the Romans do, but it can only refer to harmless things, such as drinking boiled water...if Chinese people in China say, it's okay for a man to have 3 girlfriends, and it's okay for a man to beat up women, would you still do as the Chinese do?...There are many westerners in China that refuse to learn Chinese, when I think this should be one of the requirements of living in China. But the backward things that Chinese people do, if you expect me to do the same, I'd rather leave. Finally, I'm not living in China, but I'm a guest at this forum.
If I truly believed indirect communication and the face culture lead to a better way of life, you bet I would try to learn it. But frankly, those are the things that hamper progress. ...so, over my dead body: no, thank you.