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Hagel29: It's not only an Asian phenomenon... and Lissahan, don't you worry as y
25 years of age is a quarter life crisis - most women feel that they are at their cross roads - done with studies, getting settled with their job, or climbing up the corporate ladders... bla bla bla... and dealing with peer and family pressure - 'so what's next?' As for those who are not into pursuing tertiary education, they would swiftly move on to the next or 'expected' level in life - marriage + being a baby factory. The phenomenon is the same everywhere, even in the land of milk & honey - America.
I'd say that a lot of women from Europe are very independent due to women's emancipation and how the media portrays independence and all, but there are individuals out there in Europe who'd be worried about not being married at the age of 25. However, there are more women in Europe who are not 'needy enough' to have a man in their lives.
Likewise in China or any other Asian country, the number of unmarried women from age 25 onwards are on the rise due to the very same fact - especially those residing at cosmopolitanised areas. They've shunned the old, close-minded thinking that their 'marketability' to men are based on their age. I've known many women in their late 30s and mid-40s who are happy-single, successful and beautiful! Some of them have adopted children and raised the child successfully. Apart from this, I have a good number of Asian girlfriends who tied the knot only in their mid 30s and early 40s too.
As for Lissahan, all we want at the end of the day is to be happy. Men and women alike can be 'happy-married', 'happy-single' or even 'happy divorced' and the list goes on. Don't you agree?
You're 25, you're still young and have lots of time and choices. Take your time, and don't rush about - there are too many broken marriages out there and I'm sure you don't want to contribute to those statistics? Don't listen to what other's have to say about your biological clock or your marketability due to your age - 25 is really young!
I, for example, cannot imagine myself being married at that age, as I've changed my mind and have a different set of priorities now in my mid 30s, and I'm planning marriage with my boyfriend now! In fact, before we stumbled upon each other, we were both so ready to live life contently on our own till we laid eyes on each other!
In short, live by your own expectations, and not by others. You know - the timing, the place... everything... it just clicks when you meet 'the one'. I'd say, just go and do your own thing till you're ready to settle down. You'll know it when it's time, it just hits you and there's just no running away. The man and you will just draw to each other like magnets, irregardless of your age!!! The main basics here for you is that - love yourself and do NOT submit to peer pressure and silly chauvenistic crap and granny tales.
Men who judge you by your age and skin are men that are not worthy to be anywhere near you, as they project their own lack of security and confidence in standing beside a woman of a mind of her own. They belittle you to make themselves feel superior. It's just a cartload full of crap, I'd say! haha!
Anyway, a man who really wants you is a man who will not change you or slap on expectations on you and love you for being you. Likewise your love for the man - no changing of him or expecting him to be someone else that he's not. It's all about respecting and accepting each other, and having the same goals in life! You just go together like carrots and peas!
Right, hang on there, girl - live life to the fullest - doesn't matter whether you're single, married or divorced!