Should I put up with my step-mother?
2013-02-06
I just got home for the Spring Festival a few days ago, and I've already got fed with my step-mother nagging the money issues with my father.
I go to see my father once a year during Chinese New Year. For the rest of the year, I stay with my mother. Every year I have to put up with her.
She always complains about how bad my dad treated her and whining that they're always short of money. My father always keeps silent. She's just driving me crazy.
What should I do? I don't want to ruin the reunion with my father
try to be frankly and tell what you are feeling before your parents,believe yourself everythis has its way out!
Do nothing. It's their issue to sort out. Develop friendly relation with everyone else.
these are the hard parts of life and you have to develop a way of dealing with these in your own way and stand by them. This is what builds you up from within.
I agree with huaren's comment.
Look for ways of making your visit more agreeable to all involved. Staying at a hotel gives more flexability and quiet time when you want it.
Would it be better for everyone that you stay in a hotel room away from where your Dad and step-mother lives and have New Year dinner in a public place like a restaurant. Then you Step-mom would have to be civil in public. Your Dad will keep his pride and you your sanity and pleasure of seeing you Dad during these few days. Your Dad may even stay with you in the hotel and if your step MOm decided to join him ,then she would probably behave better as it is not her home that she can boss people around. Have you consider that your Step-Mom may behave better if you give her Hong Bao?
Right, but I don't like her
It may not a happy marriage without quarrel. I saw many coupples quarreling for trival things, but they still love each other.
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