Not long ago, one of my high school classmates, with whom I have lost contact for five years, surprisingly talked to me via WeChat.
He said he wanted to ask me for some professional advice of being a journalist. I said ok, though I am not professional at all.
We were having a nice conversation on the daily work of a reporter. Yes, my whole attention was focusing on the limited journalistic experiences of mine.
Then a message of him bumped in, I stopped typing, to read his message.
In a moment a picture of his face took over my screen!
I was stunned. “What the xx is that?” And then his asked me: “You think I am more handsome than five years ago?”
If I was talking to him face to face, I would by all means reply: “What’s wrong with your mind?” And I indeed typed “你有病啊。”
Luckily I didn’t send this message to him because I suddenly realized it would destroy his impression of me. I used to be so polite and nice. If I send this message to him, I would not only threaten my positive face but also his.
So after I cooled down I stared at his face and retyped the message. It reads: “Oh, you look whiter than before!” He said thanks. And at last we had a very nice conversation.
I have to say WeChat give me the time and space to rethink what I want to say. Through WeChat what you can give to your interactant is not the instant answer but the more appropriate one. And even if you have send them an awkward reply, your will be able to withdraw(撤回) it within two minutes.
Some people are especially emotional, like me, but thanks to the time and space WeChat give me, so that I can get my sense back before I say something stupid.
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