Generally,growing up in China, we have been living a life well designed by our dear parents since the moment we were brought to the world. It is not a surprise for us children that our parents tend to determine our future, because it is to some extent a convention of the society which has existed for centuries. However, personally I don't agree with it because nobody but ourselves are the writers of our future chapter. And as participants of the much more enlightened era, we should be able to follow the voices inside of our hearts and pursue the very lives we do desire.

The reasons why parents should let children make their own choices rather than arbitrarily jump to decisions for them can be various. First and foremost, all people in the world are entitled to pursue their own happiness by doing the things which please them, without violating laws or regulations of course. Though parents who claim that they do it for our good, for our lack of real life experience and thus being too naive and idealistic that today's complex and fast-changing world can be too overwhelming for us to adapt. The path to the fulfillment of our dreams are full of thorns. That being said, they don't know that living a life with their expectations doesn't bring us any pleasure but more pressure, bringing us unnecessary troubles to handle. Therefore, we tend to suffer from great stress both mentally and physically, causing more harms than benefits.

Second, while those who follow their parents' instructions live a relatively good life, most children don't end up very well as their parents expected. Normally, most of them will find it a fault to allow others to judge for them, often generating a wide array of arguments between children and parents, making it difficult to get along well with each other. In order to avoid being the direct targets to blame, parents should enable children to choose what is best for them.

Last but not least, parents should know that entitling their children to confront the challenges and difficulties during their pursuit of lives offers them the best chance to learn from their own doing and shape their character. Being over-protective for their children and always trying to surmount all the possible haphazards for them does not serve any good.

Afterall, you don't want your kids to treat you with resentment in the future.