STRUGGLES IN LOVE
Dear Abby,
I'm glad that I have this chance to write a letter to you. I just want to ask for some advice about how to build up a close and wonderful relationship with my boyfriend.
It has been my second year in the university and I managed to find a shoulder to lean on going through many difficulties. Without any experience, I don't know how to get along well with him, even I don't have any ideas what to do on the date.
I get trapped in
this difficult problem. You have the experience, right? Give me some advice and
help me!
I'm looking forward to hearing from you!
--A GIRL
Dear girl,
With regard to your problem, I have some personal suggestions to share with you.
First, you should not take your boyfriend as a shoulder to lean on because you two are equally in mind and spirit. You are each other's counterpart so he is not your reliance. Based on perfect equality, there is a sentence that goes like, "Your boyfriend is a part-time love and a full-time friend." It is quite easy getting along well with your boyfriend--be yourself. Talk to him like he is just a friend and do whatever you feel comfortable in. as for dates, do what other couples do, such as watching movies, having meals, shopping, etc. don't be afraid or nervous to express your feelings.
Looking forward to your good news!
Dear Abby,
I want to ask you a very confusing question. If you meet someone you like very much, and you want to know about him/her deeply. Therefore, how to say "hi" to him/her. I mean how to begin the conversation which make him/her is interested to you and want to begin the relationship with you?
Confused Lover
Dear CL,
I suppose it's my honor to help you on this kind of private and emotional affair. First of all, I would like to tell you that if you like him or her very much, just pursue him or her bravely!
Saying "hi" or "hello" isn't a very difficult thing to each of us. It's no need to be afraid of greeting with him or her and remember it in your mind that you won't pay your own life for this action. When you meet him or her next time, just say "hi" like what you have done to others. It's not a big deal!
If you want to attract his or her attention, you should know him or her well, such as his or her birthday, favorite food, music, sports and hobbies, so that you won't get trapped into the situation that you don't know what to say or say something offending. You can get all his or her likes and dislikes from his or her friends and classmates. It's the high time that you made the best of your relationship.
You will get closer in the progress of conversation. Moreover, I would like to give you some advice about yourself. In the development of the relationship, you should just be your own self. Don't boast of many untrue things to make your image stronger. Honesty is one of the most important things of friendship, even between lovers. Trying to act more humorous is beneficial for you.
Good luck to you! And if you have other questions, just write me back.
LEARNING ENGLISH
Dear Abby,
I'm very confused with my future. Now my major subject is English, but I don't learn it so good. I like to learn English, and I will try my best to learn it. But when it comes to exams, I always got the last one in class. So I become so unconfident and sometimes I hate to learn English. In daily life, I will watch English movies and read some English articles. Unfortunately I become so bored. So how can I improve my English? Could you give me some advice? I look forward to some great advice!
English Learner
Dear EL,
It is my pleasure to help you solve this problem and give you some advice.
Above all, confidence is very important for an exam. In my opinion, sufficient review before the exam can reduce the degree of nervousness. You say you always watch English movies and read articles, and I think it's a very effective way that you should keep up. In addition, how to improve the English by watching English movies and reading articles is your considerable problem. Don't worry! You can watch the movie for several times. Listening to the lines with no subtitle again and again can improve your listening. Next, I want to say reading articles. Don't look up dictionary when you read it the first time. You'd better try to read the whole passage and then you can look up the words. You can prepare a book to note down the vocabulary. Reading passages a lot is a good method to practice your pronunciation.
I hope this advice can help you. Practice can make perfect for you!
PROCRASTINATING
Dear Abby,
I have many things to do, but sometimes I feel like I don't want to do any of them. So instead of doing the important things, like my homework, I procrastinate my time and spend it in other pursuits like shopping on Taobao. What can I do?
Dear friend,
I am glad to hear from you. To be honest, I sometimes have the same experience as you. But you have to know that procrastination is the thief of time. You can follow the advice, I hope you can overcome it soon.
The most effective means to solve this problem is that you can make a "to do" list. For example, you can write "Finish homework before Saturday night" on your plan. If you manage to finish it, you can reward yourself. Otherwise, punish yourself.
What's more, you can find a partner who has the same problem as you. Urge each other to finish work at any time.
Then you can arrange your most important work at efficient times, like 9-11 o'clock. Different people have different efficient times. But it doesn't matter what time it is. Just don't waste time, following the schedule strictly.
Last but not the least, do it now. Don't look for any reasons for yourself, just from now.
In a word, don't spoil yourself. Although you have a long way to go, the first step is very essential.
Good luck!
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