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shelleybelly
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Whom U will choose? a divorced man or a same age man

If the two men are both excellent for you, whom will you choose?

2007-8-3 06:43 PM

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a divorced man can aslo be a man of the same age....divorce is not about age I think/

2007-8-3 10:52 PM

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which one you love most then thoose which one.

2007-8-3 11:05 PM

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Does it matter...if you love him and can be with him go for it!

2007-8-4 03:28 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by shelleybelly at 2007-8-3 18:43
If the two men are both excellent for you, whom will you choose?

i prefer older man,so that's why it's a prb for me,most of these aged men got married already

2007-8-4 04:14 PM

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alright....if i like someone...i dont mind....well...now i got this problem...i like irish a lot...but he is divorced...i didnt tell my mother about he is divorced...cos i know she wouldnt like it..........i guess i have to conceal it from my mother for quite a while......

2007-8-4 04:45 PM

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Originally posted by sinfulangel at 2007-8-4 16:45
alright....if i like someone...i dont mind....well...now i got this problem...i like irish a lot...but he is divorced...i didnt tell my mother about he is divorced...cos i know she wouldnt like it. ...

hmmm, problem...

2007-8-4 07:31 PM

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Originally posted by shelleybelly at 2007-8-4 19:31

hmmm, problem...

a divorced man is not a criminal.
but once the failure of marriage,
that might influences of his attitudes towards life,friendship.
He might scared of new relationship rarely make commitment or promises to you...
You would not feel safe ...
I mean your heart won't feel safe for staying there ...

2007-8-4 07:33 PM

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well..i think he has learnt his lesson from last marriage....he will not make the same mistake again.....i would like to trust him in that...

2007-8-4 07:45 PM

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still I think the comparision is strange, like comparing apple with banana...=S

as for marriage status
a divorced man, unmarried man, or a married man(

)

and as for age range
an older man(e.g. 10 years older than you), man of the same age, and a younger man

2007-8-4 09:44 PM

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superK...i like this avtar of yours the best.....^^

2007-8-5 10:34 AM

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divorce isnot the key, the key is who love me more, whom i love more, who give me more happy who i want to live with by my left life

2007-8-5 04:14 PM

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it's an angel sa, so it should be you

2007-8-5 06:13 PM

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it cant be me....too innocent looking.......

2007-8-5 06:41 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by shelleybelly at 2007-8-3 18:43
If the two men are both excellent for you, whom will you choose?

A divorced man/or woman would have some bitter relationship experiences...they are seasoned people...is that good or bad for future relationships?

A same age man maybe emotionally less mature than the woman

(if you believe in that theory)...and if they marry real young...let say 18 ...by the time the woman reaches menopause...the man is still at his peak...is that good or bad for their marriage?

Maybe that why men are always looking for a younger partners

(if you believe in that stereotypical description of a dirty "old" man.)

Being "old" is a relative term...a 40 year-old man is "old" compared to a 18 year-old...a 40 year-old woman is "old" compared to a 18 year-old girl...a 18 year-old girl is "old" when compared to a 10 year-old girl...a 80 year-old man talking to a 60 year-old man.... " YOUNG man, when I was at your age...I traveled around the world in 30 days!

Physical age is not the only criteria for judging the person's "oldness"...emotional and psychological factors are also part of the equation.

Theoretically, if both men are equal in all aspect except one has gone through certain negative/positive experiences and the other has none...and you love them equally and dearly ...as I am typing the above sentences out...you can see that this situation is so hypothetical that no empirically based answer can be fetched.

And if you believe that love is blind (beauty is in the eye of the beholder)...and love is an emotional affair...do you think a logical mind is a good consultant for such matter?

2007-8-5 10:53 PM

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Divorced Man

I would not marry a divorced man too soon after his divorce as in any life changing situation, it takes time to adjust. A divorced man who is several years past his divorce (3 to 5) has experience and a perspective that is helpful in a relationship. A man who has never been married has a learning curve. A divorced man knows what can go wrong in a relationship and if he wants to marry again, is tempered to succeed where he has failed before. Just because a man is divorced does not mean he failed before. Some women are unsuitable for marraige by being unstable, immature or self centered. So judge a person by their character and that will lead you to make the best decision.

2007-8-8 08:20 PM

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Some men and women never learned their lessons well!...they repeat the same mistakes more than once!

2007-8-9 12:47 AM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by shelleybelly at 2007-8-3 18:43
If the two men are both excellent for you, whom will you choose?

I'd choose the better looking one!

[ Last edited by creepyspider at 2007-8-9 02:49 AM ]

2007-8-9 02:47 AM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by shelleybelly at 2007-8-3 18:43
If the two men are both excellent for you, whom will you choose?

Why do you have to be forced to choose between them?

Why don't you go for both and get married with them, as Queen Elizabeth I, a virgin queen said it out load, "I'm married to England!"?

Did she mean, "Rather than being one man's wife, I wanted to be every man's woman." ?

2007-8-9 06:47 AM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by shelleybelly at 2007-8-3 18:43
If the two men are both excellent for you, whom will you choose?

if you are warm-hearted and have sympathy of the weak,you shoul choose the divorce.as he has experienced a failed marriage.or you should choose the one not married yet before.as he reach a marrigeable age but yet still single.

2007-8-9 09:46 AM

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