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ashely_lulu
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i am ready to pull the plug on love

i have 3 times about love.
the first when i was in the college,he is my classmate.it last for 1years.
the second one who is study in the NANCHANG University.it last for 1 month.and then,he leaves off the college and go out to hunting job. we get touch with each other no more
the third one my be is my last .it last for 1 week.
i think love is precious.and i am very cherish.
l know love is a feeling
but for me ,it is not confortable and sweet.
i am a tradditional girl and passive
some one tell me i should brave in my love and speak it out .
but when i speak it out .i am failure.the guys get away
i do not know why ?i am ready to call it quites on love!

2009-11-6 06:12 PM

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Hold the plug right there

One way to solve this problem is to look at yourself and ask what men like and dislike about you. Find out what are your good strong points and your weak points. You must be honest with yourself in this excercise. When you find out what your strong points are, improve on them and concentrate on them when you are with men. You must also try to find out what personality/character men want from girls. Work hard on those personality/character that they like. Good luck to you.

2009-11-7 02:41 PM

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huaqiao,thanks a lot.i do not know what is guys ideas.
i just know like him stupidly
i think this is a crisis i do not know how to coversationwith them.
i have many good male friends.
we can get very well with each others.
but i can not know how to coversation with my boyfriend
just treat him like my male friends?

2009-11-7 03:25 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by ashely_lulu at 2009-11-7 15:25
huaqiao,thanks a lot.i do not know what is guys ideas.
i just know like him stupidly
i think this is a crisis i do not know how to coversationwith them.
i have many good male friends.
we can g ...

If you have to figure how to talk with him or what to say in front of him, I am afraid he is not the right one for you. The feeling of love is so free and relaxing,
which means you can be your real self being with him. How about asking your ex what your strong and weak points are sincerely, if you really want to fix the
problem? But please don't stop loving.

2009-11-7 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by amylhz at 2009-11-7 16:19

If you have to figure how to talk with him or what to say in front of him, I am afraid he is not the right one for you. The feeling of love is so free and relaxing,
which means you can be your ...

but when we broke it off.
we lost connection
even i do not know who broke it off who?
i have no chance to ask
i send the email to him to ask why.
they just give me the the ironic answer:your are very nice girl,but there is no connection ,just like this.
and no more!
it is very ridiculous.

i am doubt that they all like bad girls?or something else?i can not believe it.

2009-11-7 06:01 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by ashely_lulu at 2009-11-6 18:12
i have 3 times about love.
the first when i was in the college,he is my classmate.it last for 1years.
the second one who is study in the NANCHANG University.it last for 1 month.and then,he leave ...

why so much rush?Do not be in a rush to be you the first to fall in love,just wait until the man first falls in love with you.
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2009-11-7 07:03 PM

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Amy I agree with you.I am so happy to read your wise answers.

2009-11-7 07:05 PM

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Originally posted by xilaren at 2009-11-7 19:05

Amy I agree with you.I am so happy to read your wise answers.

Thanks for agreeing with me, dear xilaren. :handshake:hug:

2009-11-7 08:22 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by ashely_lulu at 2009-11-7 18:01

but when we broke it off.
we lost connection
even i do not know who broke it off who?
i have no chance to ask
i send the email to him to ask why.
they just give me the the ironic answer ...

Don't get too upset about this. Be patient and you will understand all about this soon. Good luck!

p.s. When you mentioned your third love, do you consider one-week love as a serious relationship?

2009-11-7 08:39 PM

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I do have a friend who is a girl. She like to voice out and don't keep her pain in her heart.. She is a really very very nice person but she only have two friends (me and another girl). I just keep hearing one negative thing after another. I treasure her friendship and I appreciate her being a nice person and I want to help her. But, not many people see her this way.

It is good to voice out but if it is too often, it turns people off.

Do you find yourself talking negative things to them for hours?

It's not wrong to voice out but maybe you can voice out to a very close friend. Once in a while.

2009-11-8 12:16 AM

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Originally posted by amylhz at 2009-11-7 20:39

Don't get too upset about this. Be patient and you will understand all about this soon. Good luck!

p.s. When you mentioned your third love, do you consider one-week love as a serious ...

of cousre.i know it ,so i am afraid. i can not believe it the next love .if it just one night.i can not stand it
so i should be careful.wait and restrained.

2009-11-8 08:27 AM

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Originally posted by constance6891 at 2009-11-8 00:16
I do have a friend who is a girl. She like to voice out and don't keep her pain in her heart.. She is a really very very nice person but she only have two friends (me and another girl). ...

i have never chase boys.
at the first they fall in love with me .and want to make friends with me
if i like who amongs them.
i will accepect depend on my feeling .
maybe my feeling it is not sensitive
and my decided is not smart.
he is two_timing to me
i also think that it is my fault.

2009-11-8 08:36 AM

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Originally posted by xilaren at 2009-11-7 19:03

why so much rush?Do not be in a rush to be you the first to fall in love,just wait until the man first falls in love with you.
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some word said that ,love should brave.maybe it not fit for me!

2009-11-8 08:38 AM

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no ,i am not nagtive girl.and i do not want to say that kind of thing to boyfriend.
i just  speak out my ideas.to share with them at the begainning.not often.
we sex in the hotel.
and hold the hand  go around verywhere beside i work.
it sounds like very good
he said he is very moving. and i am good girl.
but  i am not the right one to be with him in all his life

so i am puzzed

2009-11-8 12:25 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by ashely_lulu at 2009-11-8 08:36

i have never chase  boys.
at the first they fall in love with me .and want to make friends with me
if i like who amongs  them.
i will accepect depend on my feeling .
maybe my feeling it is  ...

The guy sounds like a jerk ,Ashely.

Don't feel sad over such a guy.

2009-11-8 02:09 PM

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Don't worry about that. just waiting for your Mr, right.

Hi, ashely-lulu.
I undertand your feeling. i once went though that years ago. but don't worry about that. don't think it's your fault. Love is wonderful. I trust it's called YuanFen. yours is not coming yet. So just be calm and waiting for you mr. right coming.
but one thing i want to tell you is "love need operating carefully". lovers need to know how to being together well and dealing problems.

2009-11-8 02:12 PM

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Treat the one you like like a friend

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You should not rush into love. Make more male friends and learn more about men. Then you can safely choose the one you like from among them. Sometimes, the one you like very much now is not the one you like in the future. Don't rush.

2009-11-8 04:10 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by constance6891 at 2009-11-8 14:09

The guy sounds like a jerk ,Ashely.

Don't feel sad over such a guy.

i know it.thanks.

2009-11-9 10:14 AM

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Originally posted by ntt597 at 2009-11-8 14:12
Hi, ashely-lulu.
I undertand your feeling. i once went though that years ago. but don't worry about that. don't think it's your fault. Love is wonderful. I trust it's called YuanFen. yours is no ...

it is not easy to wait
i wait one person i like him for a long time
but he has no feel to me !hehe

2009-11-9 10:16 AM

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Originally posted by huaqiao at 2009-11-8 16:10

You should not rush into love. Make more male friends and learn more about men. Then you can safely choose the one you like from among them. Sometimes, the one you like very much now is not the ...

maybe i know what is the problem in my love .more patiente morecarefully and more understand .and more coversation.do not rush!
thanks everybody!

2009-11-9 10:17 AM

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