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ghost156 (ark)
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Yeah, what your girl friend requires does exist in China , but this culture does not stay identical in every part of China, and in some place ppl make compromise if the male part can not go by with the rule.
fredius is right, this culture is almost abandoned in big city, ppl just follow what they think is reasonable or acceptable. and marriage is about eatch other, even the female take control of the bank account, she knows what to do when you are in financial trouble.
So can you trust her love to you,that is the point.

2009-3-13 03:26 PM

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I think your gf is a traditional chinese girl,in china the traditional girl is a queen,but what she said is an old fashion.For nowaday yong people,they must assume responsibility together,especially facing global financial crisis,It is unnecessary and apathetic to do so. you go and live together for love.So i think you must have a good communion.Perhaps you will marry right now ,she hope you became an real men in her soul since gave you press.

2009-3-13 03:28 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by ichiban at 2009-3-13 03:56
Hi there,

I'm a British Black guy and I've been dating my Chinese girlfriend for over a year now.
She is a international student. She moved in with me with 2 months of knowing each other beca ...

Hello guy,
Firstly, congratulation you marriaged with a chinese kindness girl. I also will marriage with my gf, it is exciting day i belive.
Secondly, you should respect your gf's suggestion and opions. maybe she is right, most chinese girl are traditnal. In chinese now day, man should pay for the house expense, woman can bear the car fee. regarding the house decoration, you are together bear with your economy. respect your future wife, you will get more happness and joyfu, do not struggle each other for this little case.
finally, wish you have good life...

2009-3-13 03:48 PM

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Maybe you can communicate with your girlfriend so that you can struggle for the future together.For all,love-romance is the greatest!

2009-3-13 03:59 PM

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Kick her out she's a sponger

2009-3-13 04:01 PM

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my advice to you

yeah, marriage means sth about two. maybe you think it's ridiculous, but as long as you figure out Chinese culture and tradition, you will well understand!
In ancient China, women's main task is doing sth at home rather than going out to make money to keep the pot boiling! Meanwhile, men have enough time and energy to do his own business. Of course, generally speaking, a person utterly impossible to make money at home! Gradually, this idea bocome a kind of conception which can not be changed in a short time!
but, with the developmant of civilization and morden education, the case has been changed greatly! maybe, the way we live in China can be improved in the future! i'm sure that if you love her, you should sacrifice your financial benefit! after all, love is giving, not taking!

:P:P:P:P:P

2009-3-13 05:01 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by emmawen at 2009-3-13 11:30
the traditonal culture is just as your gf had said ,but now this concept had changded, many couples are saving money togather,not just depending on their bf.

just like me!

2009-3-13 05:04 PM

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so many kind people have given u so many ideas
i also give u one ,to ask your gf log onto this website and to browse this posts.
i believe she'll understand ur situation and make some compromise
best wishes for both of u .
;P;P;P;P;P

2009-3-13 06:45 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by will2008 at 2009-3-13 18:45
so many kind people have given u so many ideas
i also give u one ,to ask your gf log onto this website and to browse this posts.
i believe she'll understand ur situation and make some compromi ...

good idea!

2009-3-13 09:03 PM

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could you do anything for your girl friend ?

2009-3-13 09:33 PM

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if it is true

1i want to defecate that many chinese girls are self-relianced ones .
2if you are truly in love with her, i think money is not a problem as long as you could afford
3talk to your gf is more important now than learn chinese culture, because learning doesnot mean understanding

2009-3-13 09:50 PM

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Ichiban, I thought about your situation, and have an approach that might work. I see education as an investment in the future. What is
the point of that investment if it doesn't translate into future wealth? You might point out to her that she is selfish if she doesn't repay
your sacrifice by getting a job and contributing to the family wealth.

2009-3-13 10:06 PM

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In my opinion,you should talk to you girlfriend!!!!!

2009-3-13 10:30 PM

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2009-3-13 11:07 PM

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I suppose you have to have a sincere coversation with your girlfriend.In fact,many Chinese have changed thier mind to be more flexible now.Her advice seems to be a little strict,I think.
Wish you happy!

2009-3-13 11:10 PM

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congratuation you have find your loving gf who wish to live with you in the future. I think it acceptable for your gf saying so to you. that meas she love you and trust you will give her happiness.

2009-3-13 11:24 PM

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men are always in charge of biggies...

QUOTE:

Originally posted by ichiban at 2009-3-12 14:56
Hi there,

I'm a British Black guy and I've been dating my Chinese girlfriend for over a year now.
She is a international student. She moved in with me with 2 months of knowing each other beca ...

or should i say men are always suckers to their women

2009-3-14 01:37 AM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by ghost156 at 2009-3-13 15:26
Yeah, what your girl friend requires does exist in China , but this culture does not stay identical in every part of China, and in some place ppl make compromise if the male part can not go by wit ...

I agree with you.

2009-3-14 08:30 AM

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To some extent, your girl's suggestions is right. She requires managing the money of your both earning which means she wants to make a good plan for your life after marrige. She will be a good wife. Believe yourself and believe your wife. You should often communicate with your girl from the bottom of the heart . It is a good way for your relationship. Good luck.

2009-3-14 08:40 AM

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ay!
some of chinese girls r meant to marry houses and cars and moeny

2009-3-14 10:07 AM

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