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Originally posted by lcy331 at 2008-12-31 09:46
tell him that you are very sad of that you didn't receive a ring from him on the wedding......
or,go to buy a pair of rings right now and ask him to wear ring for you as the compensation of failure

The experience left me a feeling of deep hurt. I always imagine he will buy me a ring on our wedding anniversary every year to make up for my lost wedding ring. So foolish is a daydream.

I even buy myself all kinds of rings, but it is meaningless how many rings I own. It is still vacant in my heart because not a ring belongs to my marriage.

2008-12-31 11:08 AM

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your husband is lucky but not enough

you husband is so lucky that you didnt ask him to buy you a diamond wedding ring, whcih was indeed my girl friend puts in the front of our marriage that obstacles by the money issues. but he is not lucky enough to realize that girls need a ring in their wedding ,which make mye doubt your wedding for being without a ring presented.

2008-12-31 11:11 AM

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Originally posted by allenmiao at 2008-12-31 10:22

yes, i bought one ring for my wife when marriage, although it's not expensive, but that's what i can afford for her right now,
also i think several year later, i can afford more beautiful and ...

I am jealous of your wife. She is so lucky to meet you! May you two always be in love!!!

2008-12-31 12:21 PM

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Originally posted by littleboat at 2008-12-30 20:04
Sherry, I believe you already know the truth, but you just don't want to admit it, because the truth is cruel.

Now the good thing is, you at least have a normal life in other people's eyes and y ...

Yes, you are right! I don’t think I can rely on him for both financially and emotionally after the wedding. So I am working hard to keep independent. If, I just guess if, we divorce each other. It is no problem for me to bring up my baby.

The problem is I don’t want to hurt my baby, he is innocent. I don’t want him to live without his biological father. Besides, is there a man can accept a divorced woman with a two-years-old baby? Will he treat my boy as his own child? I really doubt it. I don't want to have a risk.I hope this problem can be solved in a best way. I will try my best to avoid hurting anybody including myself.

2008-12-31 12:46 PM

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face him directly

find a proper way to ask him. tell him you wanna a ring, even it 's made of paper.

2008-12-31 12:48 PM

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Originally posted by shirley0099 at 2008-12-31 10:06

i think this question is funny, if i were you, i would ask my husband why, maybe your husband think the ring just a ring.

Maybe you are right. The ring is just a ring, means nothing. I think too much about it.

2008-12-31 12:52 PM

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The quickest and most common way to express the human emotion about emotional needs is to open you mouth and tell your other self.
That approach has its merits however, if you read the posts carefully enough, it may be beyond that level of remedy from the beginning.

Try to learn to understand the probable situation is more important than that of a hastily response.

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There is always another way. One of which was suggested above. As time passes, you will understand that you can make you OWN way.

Ultimately, YOU need to choose how to handle the situation.

Solve the problem.
Move on in life.
Be it.

2008-12-31 01:02 PM

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Originally posted by Acekiller at 2008-12-31 12:48
find a proper way to ask him. tell him you wanna a ring, even it 's made of paper.

Ya! I remember he made a ring by himself about a year ago. It is made of a one yuan coin. I ignore it because .... How to say..... because i have a little peeve deep in my heart, so i don't care about it because it is not for my wedding. It isn't a good looking ring, so to speak, it is uglily, looks like a thimble. And he just told me he made a ring, then show me, as i remember he didn't say it is for you or something. Maybe he was too shy to say.... Oh..... I really confused. Maybe he want to explain something to me, but i didn't care about that.....

2008-12-31 01:20 PM

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Originally posted by James518 at 2008-12-31 10:11
sherry, having no ring doesn't matter, i'll help you ask your hubby to compensate one to you someday.

Thanks, James!

But i don't want to force him to buy me a ring. If so, it is just a ring means nothing.

2008-12-31 01:29 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by sherry52033 at 2008-12-30 09:29

Thanks a lot for your caring, Magneone.

But how he doesn't know this? Both of us belong to the generation after 80's . There always rings show up on our friends' wedding, i am sure he knows ...

Dear friend, You are unhappy after marry just because the ring your husband didn't buy you in the wedding? Or because He doens't care you at this moment? I think you must analyse the question very closely. And with hope that you will be happy everyday!

2008-12-31 01:29 PM

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Originally posted by comeisgone at 2008-12-31 10:30

i mean buy him a ring,

and during the time, tell him what's your feeling about the marriage ring. buy him one, and let him know it is very importand in your eyes.

then see ...

Sounds a good idea, i will consider it, thanks!

2008-12-31 01:33 PM

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Originally posted by lv_shopping at 2008-12-31 13:29

Dear friend, You are unhappy after marry just because the ring your husband didn't buy you in the wedding? Or because He doens't care you at this moment? I think you must analyse the question ...

In my opinion, he didn't buy me a wedding ring, which means he doesn't care of me. Am i right?

2008-12-31 01:36 PM

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Don't worry,maybe your husband just hadn't know the importance of the ring.I think you could ask him the reason, sometimes man is more careless than women,especialy at these details.
One the other hand,you may make a request to your groom actively what you want,such as flower,ring,dress,as long as that's moderat! Don't be shy,the frank comunnication between the couple is actually necessary .Good luck!

2008-12-31 01:38 PM

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Originally posted by anegron at 2008-12-31 10:18
DO NOT write a letter and leave it to him, or ask a family member to do this. First off its not a good method, he is your husband and you should be upfront with him...thats what marriage is, being ...

Is it good to show him this forum?

2008-12-31 01:40 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by sherry52033 at 2008-12-31 13:20

Ya! I remember he made a ring by himself about a year ago. It is made of a one yuan coin. I ignore it because .... How to say..... because i have a little peeve deep in my heart, so i don't car ...

Dear friend, I was sad after reading your words. I can't distinguish if your husband love you or not? even if you love your hushand or not?
as the saying goes：True love needs tolerance. If you love him,pls forgive him or just tell him your ture thoughts. Don't let the ring always ring your life!

Wish you have a harmonious family！

2008-12-31 01:41 PM

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Originally posted by allenmiao at 2008-12-31 10:59

per man's instinct, i really don't want to say your husband don't love u a little...but actually i have to say that, don't u think so?
u said u were prenant unexpectedly then he married u also ...

Very good analysis!

2008-12-31 01:59 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by sherry52033 at 2008-12-31 12:40 AM

Is it good to show him this forum?

I would not...that might bother him a lot more then you just approaching hi and sitting down talking to him.

You see here, many people have added there opinions and though in your favor, he might feel over-whelmed...you on the other hand are his wife, one he confides in and you him. As hard as it may seem as it is simple...just say "can i talk to you about something" and say "i wanted to know why you didnt get me a ring now that we are married"....

Honestly...if you only got married because you got pregnant, it could have been just put on him out of no where and he didnt have the money and felt like he would lose face...just bring \it up to him and ask in a nice polite manner

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2008-12-31 02:04 PM

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Originally posted by allenmiao at 2008-12-31 11:03
per man's instinct, i really don't want to say your husband don't love u a little...but actually i have to say that, don't u think so?
u said u were prenant unexpectedly then he married u also the ...

I am deep in thought after reading your words. Am I satisfied with my marriage? No. Like other girls I expected my wedding. The more hope you have, the more disappointment you’ll get. I am waiting for an offer of marriage with rose and ring, but nothing. The wedding took place when I was pregnant for about 8 months. I can’t even wear the wedding veil. Fat with a big belly you can imagine. But I felt happy because I would get married. However, no ring jolted me out of the happy mood.

I did try to talk to him freely about my feeling. But it seems all end of quarrel, which cause I hate to talk with him now. I hate quarrels. So I always keep silence now. I know it is not good for both of us, but I really don’t know how to solve it.

2008-12-31 03:01 PM

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I am really disgusted with men who give their girlfriends rings made of grass or other silly stuff.  If he is a student from a very poor family that struggles to make ends meet, then that's understandable.  But your husband is already working, right?  So, that's really disgusting.  These men are economists that just want to make the most of the least or even nothing at all.

A man who gives you money might not love you very deeply, but at least he likes you and he gives you the gift that he thinks you are worth and deserve; while a man who don't want to spend any money on you definitely does not love you or value you.

I think, a RMB3,000-10,000 ring will be suitable for most people.  Does he not even have RMB3,000?

What if he marries a women that is his dream lover?  Will he still be so begrudging?

2008-12-31 03:03 PM

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Originally posted by littleboat at 2008-12-31 15:03

I am really disgusted with men who give their girlfriends rings made of grass or other silly stuff. If he is a student from a very poor family that struggles to make ends meet, then that's u ...

It seems i always live in my own fair tales. I just want to find some good reasons for myself. My head is stuffed with silly romantic ideas. What a foolish woman i am!!!

2008-12-31 03:13 PM

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