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snappysammy
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Same sex marriage

Do you think there should be same sex marriage in China....

2008-11-20 11:38 AM

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Originally posted by snappysammy at 2008-11-20 11:38
Do you think there should be same sex marriage in China....

If same sex marriage doesnt work in the US, why does one think it would work in a much more traditional and conservative country like China? No, it wont work. Try to make it work in the US first and see what kind of chaos it will bring to the human society.

What is your opinion on same sex marriage? Do you think they should be allowed? What about kids rased by gay couples? Are they going to be confused?

2008-11-20 03:08 PM

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it is unthinkable how the same sex marriage will be.the kid raised in special family maybe have a special ponit of view on love.

2008-11-20 03:30 PM

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Originally posted by dearrina at 2008-11-20 15:30
it is unthinkable how the same sex marriage will be.the kid raised in special family maybe have a special ponit of view on love.

Not sure what you are trying to say....can you use some commas in your sentence?

2008-11-20 03:35 PM

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No way i think... doesn't think what is result if it started to work in US...

conflict with human culture...

2008-11-20 03:35 PM

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Originally posted by chinesequeen at 2008-11-19 11:08 PM
Try to make it work in the US first and see what kind of chaos it will bring to the human society.

Well, actually, same-sex marriage is already recognized in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, South Africa, Spain, Nepal (as of about three days ago on 17 November), and to be recognized in Norway on the first of the New Year.

It's also recognized in the US states of Massachusetts, Connecticut. New York will recognize same-sex marriages from those states, even though it does not yet allow same-sex marriages itself.

In those places mentioned, there is no chaos and, in fact, no disruption at all.

Of course, each country has to make its own determination. Ultimately, though, the demographics are such that same-sex marriage will gradually be more widely accepted in most places worldwide.

2008-11-20 04:14 PM

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I think it is still illegal to be Gay in China....Can't imagine being gay married in China...

2008-11-21 12:39 AM

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Originally posted by jeff_in_sf at 2008-11-20 16:14
Well, actually, same-sex marriage is already recognized in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, South Africa, Spain, Nepal (as of about three days ago on 17 November), and to be recognized in Norway o ...

Thanks for your reply. What does "recognize same sex marriage" mean? Does the couple entitle benefits from one another?

2008-11-21 02:31 AM

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Do they recognize the social problems it takes...

2008-11-21 09:28 AM

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i hope someday same sex marriage would be legal in China,but it seems impossible for now.

2008-11-21 10:32 AM

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let it be if its true love

just let it be itself..if it's true love..
'cauase everyone has his rights to gain true love, even if the same-gender

2008-11-21 10:48 AM

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Reply #8 chinesequeen's post

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Originally posted by chinesequeen at 2008-11-20 10:31 AM
Thanks for your reply. What does "recognize same sex marriage" mean? Does the couple entitle benefits from one another?

"recognize" here means "make same-sex marriage legal." In that situation, any benefit that is available for an opposite-sex couple (from one person to the other or from somewhere else, like a benefit from the government) is available to the same-sex couple. Benefits depend on each country or state but, generally, couples get some benefits (such as parenting and adoption rights, joint insurance rights, inheritance rights, etc.) from being married.

The "social problems" are really non-existent. Same-sex marriage benefits those who are allowed to get married and harms no one else.

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Originally posted by jjloverene at 2008-11-20 06:32 PM
i hope someday same sex marriage would be legal in China,but it seems impossible for now.

Well, even discussing this topic a few years ago on a bulletin board in China might have been very unlikely so it is difficult to predict the pace of social change. In the US and probably elsewhere younger people are more accepting of same-sex marriage than older people—that means that demographically, there will be a shift towards greater acceptance as time goes on.

2008-11-21 12:03 PM

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its taboo in China. Sex is even taboo, dont even talk about gay/lesbian marriage...

2008-11-21 12:11 PM

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lesbian is ok ,but gay is awful

2008-11-21 05:53 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by chinabeijing at 2008-11-21 17:53
lesbian is ok ,but gay is awful

What exactly is the difference between Lesbian and Gay

2008-11-21 10:43 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by jeff_in_sf at 2008-11-21 12:03

"recognize" here means "make same-sex marriage legal." In that situation, any benefit that is available for an opposite-sex couple (from one person to the other or from somewhere else, like a benefit from the government) is available to the same-sex couple. Benefits depend on each country or state but, generally, couples get some benefits (such as parenting and adoption rights, joint insurance rights, inheritance rights, etc.) from being married.

The "social problems" are really non-existent. Same-sex marriage benefits those who are allowed to get married and harms no one else.

I am curious about the parenting and adoption rights for same sex couples. Just exactly how many ways for same sex coulples to be parents? And for the children raised by thesame sex couples, who is the mom and who is the dad? or do the kids just call them by their names? When the same sex couple divorced, who is a better parent for the kids then since the couples are same sex? In most states women are likely get the kids when they are young.

Benefits are just one thing out of all the concern and a minor issue. Love can be expressed among all people including people with same sex. No one denies that. But when it comes to children and parenting, that is when the complexities kick in.

Again, thanks Jeff for your input.

2008-11-22 05:10 PM

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ChineseQueen= Jeff so are you married.....

2008-11-23 04:45 AM

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The first sight on "same sex marriage" got me totally confused ..... it should be "homosexual marriage" not "same sex marriage" .....

2008-11-23 05:03 PM

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by icyflame111 at 2008-11-23 17:03
The first sight on "same sex marriage" got me totally confused ..... it should be "homosexual marriage" not "same sex marriage" .....

Sorry the correct term is Same Sex Marriage..

2008-11-24 01:10 AM

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I denouce all human conducts against nature.Homosexuality should be forbidden legally.We need pure morals to accord with nature

2008-11-24 01:23 AM

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