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In China, single women in their 30s have become the target of attention for the wrong reason, not for their professional achievements but for their perceived undesirable marital status. This is the result of applying outdated yardsticks to a significant new social phenomenon.

The biggest news story gripping China for the past two weeks is a trivial one. It involves only two people - Faye Wong and Li Yapeng - who announced on Sept 13 that they had just divorced.

Wong is a superstar singer whose every move is covered by reporters or paparazzi. Li is an actor with a lower profile, a second-tier star, you could say.

They were married in 2005. For the first couple of years of their marriage, few bet that it would last. Apart from the chasm in professional achievements, there was also the age gap. Wong is two years older - although she used to date Nicolas Tse, a singer-actor 11 years her junior.

But the Wong-Li divorce shocked many because they seemed to have overcome the seven-year itch, so to speak.

Now I'm not in a position to comment on their marriage and the ultimate separation. What little I gathered about them was from their micro blog postings, such as Li's remark: "I wanted a family, but you're destined to be a legend."

Wong does not have a busy career, it seems. She commands such exorbitant fees that she once retired for five years before returning to the concert stage.

In other words, Wong is not the best representative of a group of women so successful that few men are qualified to be their match.

But in urban China, a demographic of young career women has emerged. These are white-collar professional women, often in management positions, and with great looks to boot. But they are considered dangerously close to "being beyond marriageable age".

They are called the "leftover women" in China.

One has to remember that China has a surplus of men, which, according to some surveys, will reach 30 million by the year 2020. How can a woman be too old to find a spouse in such a gender-skewed society?

Yet, the "leftover women" phenomenon has its own twisted logic. Chinese tradition has it that people marry their social peers, or in old parlance, "the houses and doors should match between the two sides". When a disparity in social rank exists, men tend to marry downwards while women do the opposite.

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Post time 2013-10-1 07:23:48 |Display all floors
This puzzles me.  "leftover' women.  How strange of a term is that?

Its a woman's market in china due to the gender imbalance.  Who is really getting left behind here?

Women have their choice.  Can be picky in an environment like that.

Its the men that will get left behind if they cannot compete well.
  
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zglobal Post time: 2013-10-1 10:32
I think you didn't read it.

Women enter the use by date era by about age 28.

But that doesn't make any sense.  With the gender imbalance, its a womans market.  They get to pick and chose, not the other way around.

Supply and demand....its simple.
  
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Another thing to consider if you're a man in your 40s or 50s.. a young woman in her 20s will most likely to want children.
Are you prepared to be the father of a teenager or maybe two when you're in your 60s or 70s?
Or do you figure on dumping her before the kids become too much of a burden?

If capitalism promotes innovation and creativity then why aren't scientists and artists the richest people in a capitalist nation?

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JFenix Post time: 2013-10-1 07:23
This puzzles me.  "leftover' women.  How strange of a term is that?

Its a woman's market in china d ...

It's a cultural difference and a difference in core philosophy between China, indeed between Eastern / South eastern Asia and the Western world. It's not that many years ago since women in the west tended to marry early and women over the age of about 30 who weren't married were considered to be heading towards lifelong spinsterhood.

It may evolve to a more westernised view over time, or may not. Gender imbalance doesn't come in to play.
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