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6. You are in a bad place, emotionally.

Are you a vulnerable person? Are you easily hurt? Are you depressed? Maybe you are not usually a vulnerable person, but at the moment you are going through a very difficult time.

If you are in a very vulnerable place and other people know that, they may be reluctant to tell you something you might not want to hear. If they think you can't handle the truth because you are too fragile, they will be tempted to lie.

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7. You really don't want to know the truth, and other people can tell that about you.

Vulnerable people aren't the only kinds of people who don't want to know the truth. Sometimes very confident and successful people don't want to know either. Powerful CEOs, for example, may make it clear from the way they act that they don’t want to hear bad news about their company. When things start to go wrong, the people who could give them a heads-up are afraid to do so. Instead, they suppress vital information, or they lie.

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8. You show by example that certain truths should never be spoken.

The way you behave can tell other people whether you want to know the truth, whether you realize it or not. When you can't seem to tell the truth about certain things, you are setting an example for others.

Some parents do this in their interactions with their children, especially when something truly terrible is happening. When a grandparent or other beloved relative or friend is seriously ill, or the cherished family pet is at death's door, parents just don't want to have to tell their kids the awful news.

Parents differ in how much they protect kids from painful truths. The ones who do it all the time — even when what they are hiding is not all that awful — are setting an example. They are conveying the message, "We don't talk about difficult things in this family." When their kids grow up, sometimes they act just like their parents did. When something difficult or bad is happening in their lives, they don't tell their parents. They hide that painful reality from their parents, protecting them the way their parents once protected them.

The temptation to try to protect someone from pain — especially someone you love or someone particularly vulnerable, such as a child — is totally understandable. But what we also need to understand is how even our best instincts can, unwittingly, make us targets for deceit.

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A slipshod job....
It is of 10th June 2017
You forgot to keep the "links" alive in your Cut & Paste effort.
And you didn't credit the "Author"  Dr. Bella DePaulo.
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dostoevskydr Post time: 2017-7-6 14:23
A slipshod job....
It is of 10th June 2017
You forgot to keep the "links" alive in your Cut & Pa ...


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senoritazhao Post time: 2017-7-6 14:18
8. You show by example that certain truths should never be spoken.

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Post time 2017-7-6 16:22:24 |Display all floors
Lie is part of life. It has its own advantage and uses. You will never tell a dying person that there is no hope. Instead you console and explain the chances are existing and trying would be good. Unfortunately, this is it. Believe it or not! When you are down, you feel heavy. However, your weight does not increase, though it might reduce. Whenever you are happy, you feel delighted. Again your weight may not change or could increase due to having too much!

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