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That is a moving personal story that took courage to share and say it. If you think about it, we are ALL mixed racially, over hundreds of thousands of years. Everyone finds attractive and unattractive people from all races. |
My suggestion is that if you look at any culture, the reasons for genuine love and respect goes beyond looks. The fact that you can eliminate some people from your life because they are superficial and go by looks, is a blessing. It is lucky to find out before it is too late.
Your story about finding the right person in your life validates that. We are all human before any other classification. That should be enough. Feeling bad about yourself because of looks and other people's opinion indicates you are not beyond them yourself.
Dont be misled - the nerdy, out of shape middle-aged Chinese man, who does not care for his appearance and makes you feel embarassed is not just only that. If you learn his personal story you might find a hardworking, accomplished worker, a great father who sacrificied his time and energy and comforts for his children or parents. You might find a hero you could admire. The same goes for Western people who you think are hackneyed and superficial. If you dig a bit deeper, you will find they too have excellent qualities, maybe different ones from the Chinese, but worth being proud of.
You are ultimately, what you make and think of yourself. Your children, while still wrestling with some inherited traits, will most vividly see how you are, how you talk, think and treat people and yourself.
If you are positive and good, your children will learn that first and genetic tendencies will recede into the background. Wish you well!