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The cause of anger|
All targets of bullying get angry. This is "normal", for anger builds inside a person for months, sometimes for years. It is a feature of targets that they internalise their anger rather than express it. That is what we teach our children to do. Most often the cause of the anger is a bully who is a serial bully, a devious, manipulative, deceptive, a compulsive liar with a Jekyll and Hyde nature who can also be charming when required - especially when accountability needs to be evaded.
Living or working with a serial bully can drive you mad. Although it feels like you're going insane, in most cases targets of bullying are completely sane but mad with anger. Bullying drives many people to suicide. Most people will experience prolonged negative stress which causes injury to health and over time becomes traumatising, resulting in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) which is a psychiatric injury, not a mental illness, despite some superficial similarity. To understand the difference, click here.
What contributes most to anger is the bully's constant denial of what they said or did yesterday, plus the fact you can never hold a mature adult conversation with the person; the bully flits from topic to topic, denying everything, always blaming others, especially the target of bullying. It's like nailing jelly to a tree.
Bullies use anger to control their target. Weeks, months or years of provocation, taunting, denial and projection cause great anger even in the calmest people. Bullies know that they can tap into that anger whenever they like and use it to control their target, often by obtaining an inappropriate release of that anger.
The most maddening thing about dealing with an aggressive, dysfunctional serial bully is that nothing works. No matter what you try or what you say, nothing works. It's only when you realise that the bully has a different mindset from yourself and that he or she has the behaviour profile of the serial bully that this person's aggressive, disorganised, disordered behaviour starts to make sense. Even then, most people are trapped in their job (or their relationship) and cannot escape the bully. This aspect of captivity seems to be one of the main contributors to the development of PTSD.