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2020-08-07

如何帮助您的孩子成功

两周前,我已经有两年的学生告诉我,她将获得免费学费,免费住房和每年28,000美元的美国马里兰大学助学金。这项提议将为她的家人节省约30万美元或120万元人民币。她不仅将获得博士学位。在那里,但是,因为她将兼职做助教,所以她将获得教学经验,毕业后将获得大学的工作机会。

在中国的第三年,我有一个学生得到了普林斯顿大学的类似录取通知书。在我的前三年,她都和我一起学习。实际上,普林斯顿大学为她提供了全额奖学金,并为母亲提供了一份工作,以便她可以陪伴她在美国的女儿。自那时以来,我们的学生被哈佛大学,耶鲁大学,南加州大学,芝加哥大学和世界其他排名前2%的学校录取。我们一直在河南省培养出前1%的英语学生。

每周,我收到来自亚洲各地的人们的信息,他们要求我用英语辅导孩子。就在昨天,上海一家大型科技公司的首席执行官联系了我,要求我在线教他的孩子。我没有这样做,但是,我确实将他推荐给了拥有TESOL硕士学位(以英语为第二语言或其他语言教学)的女儿。他非常兴奋,希望立即开始。他说:“如果她是你的女儿,我知道她会是最好的。”

我经常被问到的问题是:“我如何帮助我的孩子成功学习英语?”我最好的答案很简单。

“找到一位在学生学习英语方面成功的老师,并按照他们告诉你的做事。与他们充分合作,您的孩子将会成功。”

在中国古代,当地老师享有很高的敬意。教师受到尊重和荣誉。孔子曾经说过:“尊重老师,也尊重孩子的思想。”我发现这些天经常忽略对老师指导的尊重。有些人忽略或抹黑了老师。一些父母认为他们比老师了解更多。我有时会遇到这样的父母。这是一个巨大的错误,应不惜一切代价避免。最后,受苦的是他们自己的孩子。

我回顾了在中国教过的所有成千上万的学生,并思考了我最成功的学生的父母。他们所有人都与我充分合作,并听取了我的建议和指示。父母不听从我的指示和建议,往往会造成麻烦,甚至离开我的课堂。他们中的许多人将在一两年后回来告诉我他们犯了一个错误。他们失去了两三年,孩子落后了。然后他们变得急切地想救我。坦白说,我还不够出色,无法帮助他们度过失去的岁月。

同样,“尊重老师,你也尊重孩子的思想。”不尊重老师,不听从他们的指导和建议,您的孩子会遭受痛苦和失败。老师将继续教其他许多学生,他们的父母将跟随老师。父母(您)是决定孩子未来的人。
(Baidu Translation)

How To Help Your Child Succeed

Two weeks ago, a student that I've had for about two years told me that she'd been offered free tuition, free housing, and a $28,000 USD a year stipend to the University of Maryland in the USA. This offer will save her family about $300,000 or 1.2 million yuan. She will not only earn a Ph.D. there, but, because she'll work part-time as a teaching assistant, she'll get experience teaching and finally a job offer from the university after she graduates.
In my third year in China, I had a student who got a similar offer to Princeton University. She'd studied with me all three of my first three years. In fact, Princeton gave her a full scholarship and offered her mother a job so that she could accompany her daughter in America. Since then, we've had students who were accepted to Harvard, Yale, the University of Southern California, the University of Chicago, and other top 2% schools in the world. We consistently produce the top 1% of English students in Henan Province.
Weekly, I  receive messages from people all over Asia who ask me to tutor their children in English. Just yesterday, the CEO of a very large tech company in Shanghai contacted me and asked me to teach his child online. I don't do that, but, I did refer him to my daughter who has a Master's degree in TESOL (teaching English as a second or other language). He was very excited and wanted to get started immediately. He said, "If she's your daughter, I know she'll be the best."
The question I'm often asked is, "How can I help my child succeed in learning English?" My best answer is simple.
"Find a teacher who has success with students in learning English and do what they tell you to do. Fully cooperate with them and your child will succeed."
In ancient China, the local teacher had a status of high respect. Teachers were shown respect and honor. Confucius once said, "Respect the teacher and you respect the mind of your child." I find that respect for the teacher's instruction is often neglected these days. Some people ignore or discredit the teacher. Some parents think that they know more than the teacher. I sometimes meet parents like this. It is a huge mistake and one that should be avoided at all costs. In the end, the one who suffers is their own child.
I look back at all of the thousands of students I've taught in China and think about the parents of my most successful students. All of them fully cooperated with me and followed my advice and instruction. Parents who didn't follow my instruction and advice would often cause trouble or even leave my classes. Many of them will come back one or two years later telling me that they made a mistake. They lose two or three years in which their child falls behind. Then they become desperate for me to rescue them. Frankly, I'm not good enough to help them get back those years that were lost.
Again, "Respect the teacher and you respect the mind of your child." Disrespect the teacher and don't follow their instruction and advice and your child will suffer and fail. The teacher will go on and teach many other students whose parents will follow the teacher. You, the parent, are the one who decides what your child's future will be.

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