How To Help Your Child Succeed
Two weeks ago, a student that I've had for about two years told me that she'd been offered free tuition, free housing, and a $28,000 USD a year stipend to the University of Maryland in the USA. This offer will save her family about $300,000 or 1.2 million yuan. She will not only earn a Ph.D. there, but, because she'll work part-time as a teaching assistant, she'll get experience teaching and finally a job offer from the university after she graduates.
In my third year in China, I had a student who got a similar offer to Princeton University. She'd studied with me all three of my first three years. In fact, Princeton gave her a full scholarship and offered her mother a job so that she could accompany her daughter in America. Since then, we've had students who were accepted to Harvard, Yale, the University of Southern California, the University of Chicago, and other top 2% schools in the world. We consistently produce the top 1% of English students in Henan Province.
Weekly, I receive messages from people all over Asia who ask me to tutor their children in English. Just yesterday, the CEO of a very large tech company in Shanghai contacted me and asked me to teach his child online. I don't do that, but, I did refer him to my daughter who has a Master's degree in TESOL (teaching English as a second or other language). He was very excited and wanted to get started immediately. He said, "If she's your daughter, I know she'll be the best."
The question I'm often asked is, "How can I help my child succeed in learning English?" My best answer is simple.
"Find a teacher who has success with students in learning English and do what they tell you to do. Fully cooperate with them and your child will succeed."
In ancient China, the local teacher had a status of high respect. Teachers were shown respect and honor. Confucius once said, "Respect the teacher and you respect the mind of your child." I find that respect for the teacher's instruction is often neglected these days. Some people ignore or discredit the teacher. Some parents think that they know more than the teacher. I sometimes meet parents like this. It is a huge mistake and one that should be avoided at all costs. In the end, the one who suffers is their own child.
I look back at all of the thousands of students I've taught in China and think about the parents of my most successful students. All of them fully cooperated with me and followed my advice and instruction. Parents who didn't follow my instruction and advice would often cause trouble or even leave my classes. Many of them will come back one or two years later telling me that they made a mistake. They lose two or three years in which their child falls behind. Then they become desperate for me to rescue them. Frankly, I'm not good enough to help them get back those years that were lost.
Again, "Respect the teacher and you respect the mind of your child." Disrespect the teacher and don't follow their instruction and advice and your child will suffer and fail. The teacher will go on and teach many other students whose parents will follow the teacher. You, the parent, are the one who decides what your child's future will be.